Long distance relationships by Zoe the sexpert 0 votes vote Long Distance Relationship Long distance relationships are often the beginning of the

Long distance relationships are often the beginning of the end for most couples. It requires a great deal of understanding and trust. Constant communication is needed to keep the connection between the two alive and this can be hard for even the most stable couples.

There are many of reasons for a long distance relationship. Whether your partner is forced to move temporarily for work commitments, or your paths simply diverge from each other. Deciding that the relationship is worth fighting for is a decision you must both agree on full heartedly.

Problems with Distance

In the absence of your better half you will discover all the time you used to share is now spent alone. This is a dangerous time for most couples in a long distance relationship. It’s important to keep yourself busy and to spend some spare time with friends or family. Don’t let yourself slip into the cycle of being stuck at home each night thinking about your partner. Although it is healthy to miss your partner its possible for you to fall into depression. Here you will find yourself unable to do anything but sit at home and wait for the next call.

You will also find it hard to trust you partner in this state, causing you to become very possessive. No one likes to be told what to do and if your follow down this path you will inevitably begin to fight making the relationship harder for you both.

Communication break down is another problem you will face. It’s very easy to hold back your feelings. You will also face doubts and question your relationship in this time. It’s important for you to not be afraid to share your feelings.

Handling the Absence

Avoid these common mistakes by maintaining healthy communication. You do not need to be waiting by the phone to feel apart of there life. E-mail or talk to you partner at least once a day telling them about the small stuff as well as the big, just like you would normally if they were there. Reply to them as quickly as you can and if you fall out of touch for a few days tell them. This way they won’t worry when you don’t reply.

Long distance relationships are not the time to be stubborn. Don’t be afraid to tell you’re your partner how you feel and that you miss them. The chances are they will sense you are holding something back and it can cause doubts.

Most of all make sure they still fell like a part of your life. Ask them for advice and tell them about you family members so they don’t feel left out. Also be there when they need you. This is hard to do when your miles away but if they feel upset do anything you can to make them feel better. You don’t want them thinking its them against the world and you have left them all alone.

Lastly never underestimate a small gesture. A rose or even a poem is a small something that will make you partner still feel appreciated and thought about.

Getting Physical

It’s hard to be together when you can’t physically be together. This is by far the hardest thing couples will go through. Losing the warmth and companionship with your partner combined with communication breakdown drives many couples to infidelity. But it is possible for you to get through this.

Off course the most popular is phone sex but if you don’t feel comfortable doing this there is other options. Things like writing you lover a naughty poem or a saucy story is a way of feeling intimate with them. You can also send some suggestive pictures of yourself dressed up in role play or some sexy lingerie. You could even include a toy for them to play with in your absence.

Don’t let the distance stifle your passion or creativity just find other ways to show it to your partner.

The Reunion

When you finally get to see each other again don’t put to much pressure on yourself. The chances are you have been fantasying about this moment for awhile and your partner won’t be able to live up to the expectation.

Be realistic when you see each other, you are far more likely to fill the day with awkward silences then love making. But give you and your partner the time you need to fall back into the routine.

Know when to Fold

This is when you will start to question whether or not you made the right decision. If you are doing everything you can to keep the relationship going but its still not working, its time to call it quits. Signs of this are if the communication becomes one sided, or if simply you or your partner feel you can no longer handle the distance. If this happens you need to be able to let the relationship go before things become to sour.

Always Remember absence makes the heart grow fonder and the distance is only temporary.


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Written by zoe the resident sexpert on www.sultryseductions.com.au She can be reached on sultryseductions@live.com.au for any further questions. Zoe is always keen to answer any questions you might have.