Writing poetry is my favorite hobby, and somehow I have instilled that poetic trait in my children. I am not sure that it was intentional, but it makes me proud in any case.
When my kids were babies, I would rock them to sleep, and sing to them. However, I could never remember the words to any lullabies, except for "Rock-a-bye- baby", and something about that one never sounded right to me. I mean, really, why was the cradle in the tree, and what parent would just let their baby fall like that?
So, I would make up my own poems to sing to my children. And last night, my Kaylysa(the 5 year old) was tucking in her baby-doll, and singing a poem to the doll. It was her own version of one of the lullabies that I sang to them when they were babies, and occasionally still, if they wake with a bad dream or something. I was so impressed and proud! She was just naturally creating rhymes, and it was so adorable!
I thought that I would share a few of my favorite poems with you, and maybe you will share them with your little ones. Or be inspired to create your own.
ROCK-A-BYE
Rock-bye darlings
On the hilltop,
A gentle breeze blows,
Your cradles will rock,
The stars shine on darlings,
All through the night,
The moonbeams will keep
You snuggled up tight,
When the morning comes,
The sun will shine,
And the birds will sing
For darlings mine.
HUSH
Hush my darlings, go to sleep
Sweet and quiet, your dreams I'll keep
Hush my darlings, no more tears
I will sing away your fears
Hush my darlings, no need to cry
You're safe and loved within our lullaby
LITTLE LOVES
Little loves, go to sleep
Tomorrow is on its way,
Happy dreams are yours to keep
As memories you made today
Little loves, drift away
To sleep with peaceful dreams
Morning will bring a whole new day
Much sooner than it seems
Little loves of mine,
The stars that are above,
Just for you they shine
To show you all my love
About the Author
Catherine is a mother of three and staff writer/blogger at LikeThatName.com. LikeThatName provides a fast and fun way to discover thousands of interesting baby names, along with a supportive community and information for new parents. To read the latest articles and join our community, visit us online today!
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Poetry Terms For Beginners by Kit Marsters 0 votes vote If you are new to writing poetry, and have just started posting your work online, feedback
If you are new to writing poetry, and have just started posting your work online, feedback by others can be confusing. Often, they will use terms you might not be familiar with. Don’t worry, this happened to just about all of us.
This article covers some common terms. It is by no means a complete guide. It is my hope that it will help you make sense of reviews and critiques, and that it’s a first step into your exploration of the world of writing.
Stanza
A stanza is a collection of lines within the poem. You could see it as a group of lines that form a division within the piece. The lines belong together, and tend to be used to get across a certain feeling, emotion or image to the reader. Often, a poem will have at least two stanzas. Each stanza tends to follow a similar pattern of meter and rhyme to the other stanzas.
Imagery
Imagery is used in poetry to help the reader experience the piece. A simple, common way to explain it is that you are painting a picture with your words. It’s what can make poetry such a powerful experience for the reader �" you’re helping them imagine what you had in mind when writing your poem.
Often, a poet will include the five senses in their work. Incorporating sight, smell, taste, sound and touch aids the overall enjoyment and understanding of what you, as a writer, are saying.
Rhyme
Rhyme is often (but not always) used in poetry. It tends to aid the overall reading experience and can help make a piece memorable. Rhyme is the use of the same or similar sounds at the end of two or more words.
Many poetry forms use a certain rhyming scheme, which is often indicated by using different letters for each final sound. A pattern of abab, for example, tells the poet that the final words of lines one and three should rhyme with the other, and that the same goes for the final words for lines two and four.
Meter
The meter indicates the amount of syllables to be used in a line of poetry, as well as the rhythm that should be used. Some poetic forms make use of a certain pattern of stressed syllables.
Syllables
Syllables are often compared to "building blocks" of words. Each word contains at least one syllable. In poetry, syllable counts are used to create the desired rhythm and flow of the poem.
Many forms, such as the Haiku, have rules about how many syllables to use per line. You will find that if one or two lines in your poem have far more syllables than the other lines, the rhythm and flow of the piece is significantly affected. Therefore, it is always helpful to keep a balanced syllable count throughout your poem.
About the Author
Kit Marsters is an author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Poetry.
This article covers some common terms. It is by no means a complete guide. It is my hope that it will help you make sense of reviews and critiques, and that it’s a first step into your exploration of the world of writing.
Stanza
A stanza is a collection of lines within the poem. You could see it as a group of lines that form a division within the piece. The lines belong together, and tend to be used to get across a certain feeling, emotion or image to the reader. Often, a poem will have at least two stanzas. Each stanza tends to follow a similar pattern of meter and rhyme to the other stanzas.
Imagery
Imagery is used in poetry to help the reader experience the piece. A simple, common way to explain it is that you are painting a picture with your words. It’s what can make poetry such a powerful experience for the reader �" you’re helping them imagine what you had in mind when writing your poem.
Often, a poet will include the five senses in their work. Incorporating sight, smell, taste, sound and touch aids the overall enjoyment and understanding of what you, as a writer, are saying.
Rhyme
Rhyme is often (but not always) used in poetry. It tends to aid the overall reading experience and can help make a piece memorable. Rhyme is the use of the same or similar sounds at the end of two or more words.
Many poetry forms use a certain rhyming scheme, which is often indicated by using different letters for each final sound. A pattern of abab, for example, tells the poet that the final words of lines one and three should rhyme with the other, and that the same goes for the final words for lines two and four.
Meter
The meter indicates the amount of syllables to be used in a line of poetry, as well as the rhythm that should be used. Some poetic forms make use of a certain pattern of stressed syllables.
Syllables
Syllables are often compared to "building blocks" of words. Each word contains at least one syllable. In poetry, syllable counts are used to create the desired rhythm and flow of the poem.
Many forms, such as the Haiku, have rules about how many syllables to use per line. You will find that if one or two lines in your poem have far more syllables than the other lines, the rhythm and flow of the piece is significantly affected. Therefore, it is always helpful to keep a balanced syllable count throughout your poem.
About the Author
Kit Marsters is an author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Poetry.
Effective Tips to Succeed in Poem Publishing by Wordclay 0 votes vote As the traditional book publishing industry becomes warier of risk and more
As the traditional book publishing industry becomes warier of risk and more dedicated to sure-thing titles by celebrity authors, movie tie-ins, and self-help books, poets in particular can find it hard to find a foothold.
While artistic success in poetry might simply lie in the writing itself, commercial success can be trickier to achieve. For the poet, the dream of keeping pace with best-selling authors like J.K. Rowling, John Grisham, and Danielle Steel may be an aspiration that’s hard to reach. This doesn't mean that poets cannot find success in publishing poetry, though; success can be achieved by marketing in the right way to the right people.
Nurturing an audience hungry for published poetry
For many poets, the joy of poetry is in the expression itself. Others find that sharing their poems with an appreciative audience brings a heightened sense of fulfillment.
The poet seeking to market their writing must be willing to search out and find their audience, an audience hungry for poetry. A strong DIY ethic serves the poet well in accomplishing this task. Promoting on a "grassroots" level is often the best way for an aspiring poet to find their niche audience, which is frequently a group of other writers who share a passion for poetry.
While self-publishing is the poet's greatest tool when it comes to getting published, traditional publishing can still play a role in building an audience. If a poet is lucky enough to be accepted by a large-scale, traditional publisher, the accomplishment should be celebrated. It’s an invaluable accomplishment to build on. The downside is that in the industry, poetry books do not receive much in the way of a marketing push. In the gambler's game of publishing, publishers stack their odds by putting all of their marketing efforts towards a few selected titles in hopes of creating bestsellers, while leaving a sea of titles neglected. Unfortunately, the bestselling titles are rarely collections of poetry.
Instead of becoming frustrated by large national publications, concentrate locally. In addition to self-publishing, small or regional literary publications are the most sensible places to submit works if you're looking to publish traditionally. Not only will you have a much greater chance of being accepted, but other networking opportunities can arrive. Through small-scale local publishing you can begin building an audience. Additionally, these publications often include classified listings for local and online writer’s groups.
Writer's groups can provide a supportive environment and constructive criticism, both which can help refine the poet's skills and voice. Sharing work with peers is satisfying to many poets, and will provide a diversity of opinions and advice. Poets who have trouble finding a local group can turn to technology to find a community. Search for writer's groups on Facebook or find other writer's forums and start social networking with other authors. Online writer's forums can provide valuable connections and feedback as well, but unfortunately, they lack the face-to-face contact that offers the poet the best chance to see how their words affect others.
Poem Publishing for the DIY Poet
The rise of self-publishing technology has given writers, poets, and artists with niche audiences more control over their own destiny. For the first time in history, the tools of the publishing industry are available to writers everywhere. Instead of a small number of people deciding what gets printed and what doesn’t, anyone who has the will to write has the freedom to pursue publication.
Poets in particular stand to gain greatly from the ongoing development of self-publishing and new publishers. One such publisher is Wordclay, an online publisher where authors can publish books for free. A poet can now create an attractive, professional presentation of their work, and make it available to the audience they have worked so hard to cultivate.
By combining the new technology and freedom offered through self-publishers and using a grassroots mentality to develop a niche audience, poets can enjoy the success of book publishing along with the pop-fiction novelist.
About the Author
http://www.wordclay.com
While artistic success in poetry might simply lie in the writing itself, commercial success can be trickier to achieve. For the poet, the dream of keeping pace with best-selling authors like J.K. Rowling, John Grisham, and Danielle Steel may be an aspiration that’s hard to reach. This doesn't mean that poets cannot find success in publishing poetry, though; success can be achieved by marketing in the right way to the right people.
Nurturing an audience hungry for published poetry
For many poets, the joy of poetry is in the expression itself. Others find that sharing their poems with an appreciative audience brings a heightened sense of fulfillment.
The poet seeking to market their writing must be willing to search out and find their audience, an audience hungry for poetry. A strong DIY ethic serves the poet well in accomplishing this task. Promoting on a "grassroots" level is often the best way for an aspiring poet to find their niche audience, which is frequently a group of other writers who share a passion for poetry.
While self-publishing is the poet's greatest tool when it comes to getting published, traditional publishing can still play a role in building an audience. If a poet is lucky enough to be accepted by a large-scale, traditional publisher, the accomplishment should be celebrated. It’s an invaluable accomplishment to build on. The downside is that in the industry, poetry books do not receive much in the way of a marketing push. In the gambler's game of publishing, publishers stack their odds by putting all of their marketing efforts towards a few selected titles in hopes of creating bestsellers, while leaving a sea of titles neglected. Unfortunately, the bestselling titles are rarely collections of poetry.
Instead of becoming frustrated by large national publications, concentrate locally. In addition to self-publishing, small or regional literary publications are the most sensible places to submit works if you're looking to publish traditionally. Not only will you have a much greater chance of being accepted, but other networking opportunities can arrive. Through small-scale local publishing you can begin building an audience. Additionally, these publications often include classified listings for local and online writer’s groups.
Writer's groups can provide a supportive environment and constructive criticism, both which can help refine the poet's skills and voice. Sharing work with peers is satisfying to many poets, and will provide a diversity of opinions and advice. Poets who have trouble finding a local group can turn to technology to find a community. Search for writer's groups on Facebook or find other writer's forums and start social networking with other authors. Online writer's forums can provide valuable connections and feedback as well, but unfortunately, they lack the face-to-face contact that offers the poet the best chance to see how their words affect others.
Poem Publishing for the DIY Poet
The rise of self-publishing technology has given writers, poets, and artists with niche audiences more control over their own destiny. For the first time in history, the tools of the publishing industry are available to writers everywhere. Instead of a small number of people deciding what gets printed and what doesn’t, anyone who has the will to write has the freedom to pursue publication.
Poets in particular stand to gain greatly from the ongoing development of self-publishing and new publishers. One such publisher is Wordclay, an online publisher where authors can publish books for free. A poet can now create an attractive, professional presentation of their work, and make it available to the audience they have worked so hard to cultivate.
By combining the new technology and freedom offered through self-publishers and using a grassroots mentality to develop a niche audience, poets can enjoy the success of book publishing along with the pop-fiction novelist.
About the Author
http://www.wordclay.com
I want to write, but where the heck do you start? by Christine Jones 0 votes vote Copyright (c) 2007 Christine Jones A story can be fictitious or
Copyright (c) 2007 Christine Jones
A story can be fictitious or fact, in some cases both. I believe everyone on this planet has a story to tell in some form or another. So many times people say to me, 'I could write a book about my life'. I reply, 'why don't you'. They usually come back with, 'wouldn't know where to start', followed by, 'I don't have the time'.
Okay, lets start with, where to start. I say anywhere! Could be yesterday, last week, last year or five minutes ago. Start anywhere! You can rearrange paragraphs, chapters etc later. Don't stunt your thinking with once upon a time.... Let's say you want to write about your life. You can start with, I'm sitting here without a thought in my head, but five minuets ago, I got a phone call from Joe blogs. Another salesman trying to sell me a mobile phone. Keep going, what happened before that? I was sitting there talking to my friend Betty, before rudely interrupted by the phone. Before that, I was moping the floor. Before that, eating breakfast and my son, daughter, dog, cat, whatever, knocked a pot plant over, messing up my floor. Work backwards if you have to, jump all over the place. Just get your thoughts down, can be 5, 50, 100, 200 pages of just thoughts, then do the rearranging. I call this my first draft. Second, the filling out, third, rearranging, fourth and a thousand times over, proofreading. Some writers would not agree with me on this, everyone is entitled to there opinion. If I'm wrong, why is there such a thing as writers block and the question, where do I start?
Okay, scared to tell people your life history, but want to? Turn it into fiction. Tell your story, giving yourself and others fictitious names, places and settings. Pour your heart out; make readers laugh and cry with you. Don't want dear old mum and dad having a heart attack if they read it, give yourself a pen name. Don't want your girl friend getting her nose out of joint because she does things you aren't game to tell her, make she into a he, the snotty nose two faced snob or the Aunty from hell.
Want to go further; turn your work into a full-blown fictitious novel? Your best mate suddenly becomes the miracle worker, who not only saved your pot plant but your kid, who supposedly fell out of the highchair! The man, who rang you, becomes a stalker. Mobile phone sales were down, the boss was on his back; your refusal of the offer was the last straw. He blames you for being sacked. Add, add, add, use your imagination, it's your life, mix fact with fiction, do what you will with it. Give it a twist; you eventually leave your hubby for the stalker. The stalker teams up with you to get rid of the Aunty from hell. The stalker is really an alien, teaching you a lesson in something. Imagination and fact is wonderful and anything can be done with it.
One thing I always suggest to writers, forget who is going to read it. This will free you up to write what you want and not what you think others are going to like. Remember, you can never please everyone and don't even try to. If you don't love what you're writing with passion, you leave yourself open to beat yourself to death over the slightest criticism.
I personally believe that in every fiction book is part of the author's personality, life, loves, hates, family, acquaintances and all written within the words of a poem, short story and novels.
Haven't got the time? This to me says, I don't want to write, so don't. Better to be honest and say it than to have someone like me trying to convince you to do it. If this is not the case and you really do want to write a story, would it really kill you to dedicate 10 minutes a day to writing one paragraph? Or like some do, jot down a daily note in a diary. Just think; one day you can hand it down to a family member, who might make a million dollars out of it. Take the bible for example; it is a book of letters and private notes. Stones and scrolls exchanged and collected. One day they stuck it all together and whammo, the worlds best selling book. So, there is no reason for people not to write, only if they really, really don't want to be a writer and not everyone wants to. Alas, the reader and the world needs them just as much as writers.
About the Author
Author Christine Jones http://www.cjbooks.net
A story can be fictitious or fact, in some cases both. I believe everyone on this planet has a story to tell in some form or another. So many times people say to me, 'I could write a book about my life'. I reply, 'why don't you'. They usually come back with, 'wouldn't know where to start', followed by, 'I don't have the time'.
Okay, lets start with, where to start. I say anywhere! Could be yesterday, last week, last year or five minutes ago. Start anywhere! You can rearrange paragraphs, chapters etc later. Don't stunt your thinking with once upon a time.... Let's say you want to write about your life. You can start with, I'm sitting here without a thought in my head, but five minuets ago, I got a phone call from Joe blogs. Another salesman trying to sell me a mobile phone. Keep going, what happened before that? I was sitting there talking to my friend Betty, before rudely interrupted by the phone. Before that, I was moping the floor. Before that, eating breakfast and my son, daughter, dog, cat, whatever, knocked a pot plant over, messing up my floor. Work backwards if you have to, jump all over the place. Just get your thoughts down, can be 5, 50, 100, 200 pages of just thoughts, then do the rearranging. I call this my first draft. Second, the filling out, third, rearranging, fourth and a thousand times over, proofreading. Some writers would not agree with me on this, everyone is entitled to there opinion. If I'm wrong, why is there such a thing as writers block and the question, where do I start?
Okay, scared to tell people your life history, but want to? Turn it into fiction. Tell your story, giving yourself and others fictitious names, places and settings. Pour your heart out; make readers laugh and cry with you. Don't want dear old mum and dad having a heart attack if they read it, give yourself a pen name. Don't want your girl friend getting her nose out of joint because she does things you aren't game to tell her, make she into a he, the snotty nose two faced snob or the Aunty from hell.
Want to go further; turn your work into a full-blown fictitious novel? Your best mate suddenly becomes the miracle worker, who not only saved your pot plant but your kid, who supposedly fell out of the highchair! The man, who rang you, becomes a stalker. Mobile phone sales were down, the boss was on his back; your refusal of the offer was the last straw. He blames you for being sacked. Add, add, add, use your imagination, it's your life, mix fact with fiction, do what you will with it. Give it a twist; you eventually leave your hubby for the stalker. The stalker teams up with you to get rid of the Aunty from hell. The stalker is really an alien, teaching you a lesson in something. Imagination and fact is wonderful and anything can be done with it.
One thing I always suggest to writers, forget who is going to read it. This will free you up to write what you want and not what you think others are going to like. Remember, you can never please everyone and don't even try to. If you don't love what you're writing with passion, you leave yourself open to beat yourself to death over the slightest criticism.
I personally believe that in every fiction book is part of the author's personality, life, loves, hates, family, acquaintances and all written within the words of a poem, short story and novels.
Haven't got the time? This to me says, I don't want to write, so don't. Better to be honest and say it than to have someone like me trying to convince you to do it. If this is not the case and you really do want to write a story, would it really kill you to dedicate 10 minutes a day to writing one paragraph? Or like some do, jot down a daily note in a diary. Just think; one day you can hand it down to a family member, who might make a million dollars out of it. Take the bible for example; it is a book of letters and private notes. Stones and scrolls exchanged and collected. One day they stuck it all together and whammo, the worlds best selling book. So, there is no reason for people not to write, only if they really, really don't want to be a writer and not everyone wants to. Alas, the reader and the world needs them just as much as writers.
About the Author
Author Christine Jones http://www.cjbooks.net
What Everyone Should Know About Inspirational Poems by Gray Ward 0 votes vote What Everyone Should Know About Inspirational Poems Inspirational p
What Everyone Should Know About Inspirational Poems
Inspirational poems are everywhere. They line the walls in churches and community centers. They sit neatly above the seats on city buses. They appear in magazines and on the inside flaps of countless non-fiction bestsellers. Inspirational poems are used to motivate those with illness, those who have lost someone, those who are depressed, or merely those who are on a diet. The inspirational poem is the perfect message, designed to share just the right balance of everything someone needs to hear at a hard time.
How an Inspirational Poem Inspires
Inspirational poems are so effective because they can unlock the secrets of human emotion and motivation unlike any other forms of poetry. A well written inspirational poem displays multiple levels of insight that no other art form can claim, allowing their readers to step inside the shoes of someone who understands what they are going through. To those that have been through a particularly intense or disturbing emotional trauma, an inspirational poem asserts that they are not alone and that the world is an essentially good place, one in which they will find peace.
Inspirational Poems for Different Times
There are plenty of different times in which someone might need the assistance of a truly poignant poem. These instances are often not the best moments in their lives and if you have ever been in such a position, you know how hard it can be. So, finding the right words to relieve some of that stress or worry is a great gift. These writers have all contributed to the canon of inspirational poems, helping to make those people in a hard place feel better about themselves.
Where to Turn for Truly Inspirational Poems
The list of writers who have written inspirational poems in their life is very long. Each one has something to offer in their words that few others can because they lived entirely different lives. The poets of our lifetime take much of what they learned from the inspirational words of those that came before, both in life and in the art of poetry.
William Wordsworth was considered one of the premiere English poets of the 19th century, writing prolifically in the romantic style of the time. Serving as the English Poet Laureate for seven years, his work has been cited repeatedly as a source of great inspiration. "Daffodils" is a particular popular poem written by Wordsworth that displays that very inspirational style.
Famous for his mastery of the English language and an idol to many of the Victorian poets whose work is still read in classrooms today, Percy Bysshe Shelley was another Romantic poet who wrote great inspirational works. His long piece, "The Cloud" is a classic example of elaborate allegory and detailed description designed to uplift the spirits.
While the romantic poets of the early 19th century wrote a great deal of inspirational poetry, there are hundreds more poets who freely shared their inspiration poems with the world.
About the Author
Gray Ward loves to use poems to express his feelings for the right occasion, why not enjoy more articles and poems by visiting his website at http://www.poemanswers.com and http://poemanswers.blogspot.com where you too will find the right poem for you.
Inspirational poems are everywhere. They line the walls in churches and community centers. They sit neatly above the seats on city buses. They appear in magazines and on the inside flaps of countless non-fiction bestsellers. Inspirational poems are used to motivate those with illness, those who have lost someone, those who are depressed, or merely those who are on a diet. The inspirational poem is the perfect message, designed to share just the right balance of everything someone needs to hear at a hard time.
How an Inspirational Poem Inspires
Inspirational poems are so effective because they can unlock the secrets of human emotion and motivation unlike any other forms of poetry. A well written inspirational poem displays multiple levels of insight that no other art form can claim, allowing their readers to step inside the shoes of someone who understands what they are going through. To those that have been through a particularly intense or disturbing emotional trauma, an inspirational poem asserts that they are not alone and that the world is an essentially good place, one in which they will find peace.
Inspirational Poems for Different Times
There are plenty of different times in which someone might need the assistance of a truly poignant poem. These instances are often not the best moments in their lives and if you have ever been in such a position, you know how hard it can be. So, finding the right words to relieve some of that stress or worry is a great gift. These writers have all contributed to the canon of inspirational poems, helping to make those people in a hard place feel better about themselves.
Where to Turn for Truly Inspirational Poems
The list of writers who have written inspirational poems in their life is very long. Each one has something to offer in their words that few others can because they lived entirely different lives. The poets of our lifetime take much of what they learned from the inspirational words of those that came before, both in life and in the art of poetry.
William Wordsworth was considered one of the premiere English poets of the 19th century, writing prolifically in the romantic style of the time. Serving as the English Poet Laureate for seven years, his work has been cited repeatedly as a source of great inspiration. "Daffodils" is a particular popular poem written by Wordsworth that displays that very inspirational style.
Famous for his mastery of the English language and an idol to many of the Victorian poets whose work is still read in classrooms today, Percy Bysshe Shelley was another Romantic poet who wrote great inspirational works. His long piece, "The Cloud" is a classic example of elaborate allegory and detailed description designed to uplift the spirits.
While the romantic poets of the early 19th century wrote a great deal of inspirational poetry, there are hundreds more poets who freely shared their inspiration poems with the world.
About the Author
Gray Ward loves to use poems to express his feelings for the right occasion, why not enjoy more articles and poems by visiting his website at http://www.poemanswers.com and http://poemanswers.blogspot.com where you too will find the right poem for you.
Funeral Poem of Love, Faith and Hope by Dave Pipitone 0 votes vote Can an inspirational funeral poem help the family and friends of a departed lov
Can an inspirational funeral poem help the family and friends of a departed loved one deal with the loss or sudden death of that person?
Mothers and fathers who lose a child; a husband whose wife dies; the death of a parent or grandparent are very sad times. Most people have many questions about what happens to their deceased loved ones after death. Is she free of pain? Is he safe? Will we ever be with them again or see them?
In the Christian religion, the belief in eternal life with God is based on the foundation of living a life united with Jesus Christ. The resurrection of Jesus opened the door to lasting life and destroy death.
Although the physical body may die, Christians believe that God will resurrect the person into a new way of living beyond the physical existence on earth. A funeral poem that recalls these truths is comforting during a time of loss.
Funeral services offer a family and friends the chance to gather together in mutual support after the death of a loved one. Often, in the funeral parlor of a funeral home, the remains of a physical body of a loved one is present.
Many families choose to use a casket to carry the body of their deceased loved one. Others choose a direct cremation option. Some Christians desire burial of the ashes, or placement in a mausoleum which honors the physical body and respects that one day it will be made new. Depending on the condition of the departed body, face-to-face mourning during a visitation is a positive step.
Family and friends write memorial poems to help work through the mourning process. Churches and funeral homes may offer standard funeral memorial poems which have consoling words about a deceased loved one.
Religious good stores and inspirational gift websites sell funeral memorial poems that you can carry with you or display in your home. The best poems speak about the good ness of life and and life after death. At a family funeral, you can give these cards during a wake or read them at the funeral service, in memory of the departed loved one.
Having to make funeral arrangements after the death of a loved one is difficult. When you grieve the loss of a loved one, you feel shock, sorrow and pain. The experience is often stressful and overwhelming.
All at once, you have many decisions to make. Some of these include contacting family and friends, writing and publishing an obituary, planning the wake, religious services, and burial, and many other particulars.
When the flowers from the funeral are wilted and the services are finished, the real work of the grieving process will begin. During the days that follow the funeral, the support of family, friends, church, and community is helpful.
Sharing, telling and hearing stories of a departed loved one's life are like medicine for the soul. Be sure to mention different times that were funny and touching moments. Remember special times when you felt very close and connected. Having inspirational memorial poems can bring a smile to a tearful eye.
Your connection with your departed loved ones does not end when they die; it changes. You now connect through faith and imagination - using the virtues of love, faith and hope.
When you use an inspirational funeral poem that recalls how you are still connected, you can help ease the pain of loss and eventually experience the joy of one day being reunited with your friends and family.
About the Author
To find an inspirational funeral poem that you can share with friends and family, visit www.my3strands.com.
Mothers and fathers who lose a child; a husband whose wife dies; the death of a parent or grandparent are very sad times. Most people have many questions about what happens to their deceased loved ones after death. Is she free of pain? Is he safe? Will we ever be with them again or see them?
In the Christian religion, the belief in eternal life with God is based on the foundation of living a life united with Jesus Christ. The resurrection of Jesus opened the door to lasting life and destroy death.
Although the physical body may die, Christians believe that God will resurrect the person into a new way of living beyond the physical existence on earth. A funeral poem that recalls these truths is comforting during a time of loss.
Funeral services offer a family and friends the chance to gather together in mutual support after the death of a loved one. Often, in the funeral parlor of a funeral home, the remains of a physical body of a loved one is present.
Many families choose to use a casket to carry the body of their deceased loved one. Others choose a direct cremation option. Some Christians desire burial of the ashes, or placement in a mausoleum which honors the physical body and respects that one day it will be made new. Depending on the condition of the departed body, face-to-face mourning during a visitation is a positive step.
Family and friends write memorial poems to help work through the mourning process. Churches and funeral homes may offer standard funeral memorial poems which have consoling words about a deceased loved one.
Religious good stores and inspirational gift websites sell funeral memorial poems that you can carry with you or display in your home. The best poems speak about the good ness of life and and life after death. At a family funeral, you can give these cards during a wake or read them at the funeral service, in memory of the departed loved one.
Having to make funeral arrangements after the death of a loved one is difficult. When you grieve the loss of a loved one, you feel shock, sorrow and pain. The experience is often stressful and overwhelming.
All at once, you have many decisions to make. Some of these include contacting family and friends, writing and publishing an obituary, planning the wake, religious services, and burial, and many other particulars.
When the flowers from the funeral are wilted and the services are finished, the real work of the grieving process will begin. During the days that follow the funeral, the support of family, friends, church, and community is helpful.
Sharing, telling and hearing stories of a departed loved one's life are like medicine for the soul. Be sure to mention different times that were funny and touching moments. Remember special times when you felt very close and connected. Having inspirational memorial poems can bring a smile to a tearful eye.
Your connection with your departed loved ones does not end when they die; it changes. You now connect through faith and imagination - using the virtues of love, faith and hope.
When you use an inspirational funeral poem that recalls how you are still connected, you can help ease the pain of loss and eventually experience the joy of one day being reunited with your friends and family.
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Writing Love Through a Child's Eyes by Belinda Osgood 0 votes vote The subject of love is one of which the world will never tire. Many writers hav
The subject of love is one of which the world will never tire. Many writers have built flourishing careers based purely on love and all its different courses.
Yet, when it comes to defining love we find its meaning written in thousands of ways throughout history, but still without an absolute, single definition. It is a complex array of emotions, needs, feelings, and more. Yet, in its purest form, love is so very simple.
Have you ever watched a small boy who is enthralled by a caterpillar spinning its cocoon, or seen the rapture on a young girl's face as she greets her first doll? Sincere, uncomplicated adoration is reflected in many childhood experiences. A child loves without condition; they love fully with no ulterior motive. They are both honest and expressive in their affections, and just as honest and expressive when things don't go their way. The tantrum of a two-year-old reminds us well!
Sadly this unadulterated love does not last long. Children face peer pressure, stresses of learning and making new friends. Changing responsibilities and concerns press upon each one of us as we grow through our childhood. Eventually someone will break our trust. When this happens we become less free in where we place our trust and our so it follows that our love is then given more selectively.
We can learn much from observing a child's expression of love in those early, trusting years. This type of love brings us a depth to explore in our writing. It is possible to capture that precious and uncompromising sincerity. To invoke the memories and sensations of a child-like love approach, place yourself in these situations:
* the delight of your first pet
* the gratitude in a candy from Grandma
* the complete adoration you felt towards a first crush
* the respect held toward a role model (teacher, older sibling, minister...)
* the trust in your parent as they removed a splinter from your finger
* the sudden and unbidden jealousy as a new baby takes attention away from you
* the serenity of falling asleep - warm, cozy, and secure
* the excitement of going somewhere special with dad or mum (without other siblings)
* the inconsolable anxiety of being separated from mum and dad for the first time
* the contentment of sitting on a parent's lap
Think about the above scenarios, remember what it was like in your own childhood, or observe the reactions of your children or grandchildren. Use both what you see and remember, and add to it the emotion those memories and observations engender within you to bring a deeper emotiveness into your writing. Rejuvenate tired love with the simplicity of a child's passion. Be inspired by a love both complete and honest.
Once the mindset of love through a child's eyes is developed the wording should reflect the innocence of that emotion. Word choice can completely alter the effect and meaning of a scene.
Go ahead now and write, imbuing your story or poem with the tender and sincere love as seen through the eyes of a child. Happy writing!
About the Author
Belinda Osgood is an author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Creative Writing.
Yet, when it comes to defining love we find its meaning written in thousands of ways throughout history, but still without an absolute, single definition. It is a complex array of emotions, needs, feelings, and more. Yet, in its purest form, love is so very simple.
Have you ever watched a small boy who is enthralled by a caterpillar spinning its cocoon, or seen the rapture on a young girl's face as she greets her first doll? Sincere, uncomplicated adoration is reflected in many childhood experiences. A child loves without condition; they love fully with no ulterior motive. They are both honest and expressive in their affections, and just as honest and expressive when things don't go their way. The tantrum of a two-year-old reminds us well!
Sadly this unadulterated love does not last long. Children face peer pressure, stresses of learning and making new friends. Changing responsibilities and concerns press upon each one of us as we grow through our childhood. Eventually someone will break our trust. When this happens we become less free in where we place our trust and our so it follows that our love is then given more selectively.
We can learn much from observing a child's expression of love in those early, trusting years. This type of love brings us a depth to explore in our writing. It is possible to capture that precious and uncompromising sincerity. To invoke the memories and sensations of a child-like love approach, place yourself in these situations:
* the delight of your first pet
* the gratitude in a candy from Grandma
* the complete adoration you felt towards a first crush
* the respect held toward a role model (teacher, older sibling, minister...)
* the trust in your parent as they removed a splinter from your finger
* the sudden and unbidden jealousy as a new baby takes attention away from you
* the serenity of falling asleep - warm, cozy, and secure
* the excitement of going somewhere special with dad or mum (without other siblings)
* the inconsolable anxiety of being separated from mum and dad for the first time
* the contentment of sitting on a parent's lap
Think about the above scenarios, remember what it was like in your own childhood, or observe the reactions of your children or grandchildren. Use both what you see and remember, and add to it the emotion those memories and observations engender within you to bring a deeper emotiveness into your writing. Rejuvenate tired love with the simplicity of a child's passion. Be inspired by a love both complete and honest.
Once the mindset of love through a child's eyes is developed the wording should reflect the innocence of that emotion. Word choice can completely alter the effect and meaning of a scene.
Go ahead now and write, imbuing your story or poem with the tender and sincere love as seen through the eyes of a child. Happy writing!
About the Author
Belinda Osgood is an author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Creative Writing.
Writing Naturally by Laurie J. Brenner 1 vote vote Have you ever found yourself stuck in your writing like a child on a rocking horse? Rocking bac
Have you ever found yourself stuck in your writing like a child on a rocking horse? Rocking back and forth, writing and editing, and wondering why your story doesn't take you anywhere?
As a writer for a local weekly newspaper, I couldn't afford the luxury of writing and editing. I just had to write and worry about editing later; there's something about a deadline that moves you along. How do you learn to move beyond the wooden horse, to the real horse, that story or article that will take you across vistas where the sun sets in marmalade skies and where the grass ripples like a green sea?
As a painter, I've learned the value of painting from the right side of your brain. The right brain paints what it sees, whereas the left paints what it thinks it should be. I wondered to myself if there were something for writers along these same lines. I discovered there was.
Our brains are divided into two hemispheres right and left and are joined by a strange piece of gray matter called the corpus collusum. The corpus collusum acts like a switching station. In right-brain driven individuals it tends to be larger. The right brain could be referred to as the feminine or creative side (the writer) whereas the left-brain (the editor) could be referred to as the male or logical side.
The left brain provides us with language, syntax, denotation, analytical thought, logic, math, etc. In the right brain, we discover creativity, patterns of sound, metaphor, ambiguities, and paradox.
In right-brain painting classes the teacher gets you to let go of the image of what you think you see, to seeing only what is there and consequently drawing it. This is done by taking a picture, placing it upside down, and covering up all but a little portion of the picture. You begin to draw only what you see on the page. As you move along, you uncover a little more of the picture as you draw. Practice this sometime to learn to free up your right brain.
You may be wondering - do you write upside down? No - you don't. According to Gabrielle Lusser Rico, author of the book Writing The Natural Way, "if you can speak, form letters on the page, know the rudiments of sentence structure, take a telephone message, or write a thank-you note, you have sufficient language skills to learn to write the natural way."
In her first chapter, "Releasing Your Inner Writer," Rico describes the two different hemispheres of the brain as "Sign and Design" Mind. She describes the interplay between the two hemispheres and lets us know that any good solid writing is collaboration between these two talents of the two hemispheres.
In her second chapter lay the real gems. Here's where we learn to "cluster" or "map" our creative thinking process. She calls clustering the "doorway to your design mind." The method she utilizes begins with a "nucleus word" or short phrase that "acts as the stimulus for recording all the associations that spring to mind in a very brief period of time."
You take your nucleus word or phrase and write it in the middle of a page, drawing a circle around it. Then you let yourself free associate. Every thought, feeling, or idea that comes from that word you write down in little bubbles away from that "nucleus word" but attached by a line. You keep going until you feel the shift in your mind to quit. You may have to do this several times before you recognize the feeling. It's ok - tell yourself it's just play.
She tells us that this methodology is not "merely the spilling of words and phrases at random, but something much more complex: for the Design mind, each association leads inexorably to the next with a logic of its own even though the Sign mind does not perceive the connection." This is learning to write from the creative side of your brain.
This methodology of clustering is like throwing a rock into a pond, it unfolds from the center, each ripple, or thought moving outward. After the completion of the clustering, (and you will learn to know when this occurs), you write a vignette, a poem, whatever strikes you, using the words from your clustering spider web and whatever else comes out of you.
What you'll find is an interesting piece, almost like poetry, with an undiscovered beauty emanating from within you. It's a very rewarding experience.
With enough practice, you won't even need to do the "clustering" approach, as you'll be able to feel the shift internally into that hemisphere of the brain, not unlike shifting into high gear.
Peter Elbow, the author of "Writing with Power" says, "When we were little we had no difficulty sounding the way we felt; thus most little children speak and write with real voice."
Read your writing aloud. Words are meant to be spoken aloud. When you hear it, you'll hear those places where it doesn't flow and you'll feel it. They'll stick out of your sentences and paragraphs like stickers in your socks.
As a writer - it's also important that you allow yourself time. Time to practice, time to play, time to perfect. With time, you'll discover yourself as a writer. You'll find your voice. You'll lift it to sing.
Try different things. Write poetry. Write a movie critique. Write a story. Try writing a newspaper article, a how-to. Try describing the indescribable. Challenge yourself. There's nothing that says you have to show it to anybody. Most professional writers (and best-selling authors) have scads of journals they wouldn't even show their best friends.
Writing doesn't necessarily mean sculpting every word from your mind with a chisel. Your head is not a rock. Be gentle with yourself. Enjoy, kick back, let loose, try this clustering method, learn to relax that muscle between your ears, and who knows, one day, all of sudden, you just might find yourself writing.
Naturally.
About the Author
Laurie Brenner, former newspaper editor, now writes inspiring, humorous, uplifting stories and articles for everyone. Check out her websites:Little Book of Becoming, New Age Articles, LOA Masters, WildWind
As a writer for a local weekly newspaper, I couldn't afford the luxury of writing and editing. I just had to write and worry about editing later; there's something about a deadline that moves you along. How do you learn to move beyond the wooden horse, to the real horse, that story or article that will take you across vistas where the sun sets in marmalade skies and where the grass ripples like a green sea?
As a painter, I've learned the value of painting from the right side of your brain. The right brain paints what it sees, whereas the left paints what it thinks it should be. I wondered to myself if there were something for writers along these same lines. I discovered there was.
Our brains are divided into two hemispheres right and left and are joined by a strange piece of gray matter called the corpus collusum. The corpus collusum acts like a switching station. In right-brain driven individuals it tends to be larger. The right brain could be referred to as the feminine or creative side (the writer) whereas the left-brain (the editor) could be referred to as the male or logical side.
The left brain provides us with language, syntax, denotation, analytical thought, logic, math, etc. In the right brain, we discover creativity, patterns of sound, metaphor, ambiguities, and paradox.
In right-brain painting classes the teacher gets you to let go of the image of what you think you see, to seeing only what is there and consequently drawing it. This is done by taking a picture, placing it upside down, and covering up all but a little portion of the picture. You begin to draw only what you see on the page. As you move along, you uncover a little more of the picture as you draw. Practice this sometime to learn to free up your right brain.
You may be wondering - do you write upside down? No - you don't. According to Gabrielle Lusser Rico, author of the book Writing The Natural Way, "if you can speak, form letters on the page, know the rudiments of sentence structure, take a telephone message, or write a thank-you note, you have sufficient language skills to learn to write the natural way."
In her first chapter, "Releasing Your Inner Writer," Rico describes the two different hemispheres of the brain as "Sign and Design" Mind. She describes the interplay between the two hemispheres and lets us know that any good solid writing is collaboration between these two talents of the two hemispheres.
In her second chapter lay the real gems. Here's where we learn to "cluster" or "map" our creative thinking process. She calls clustering the "doorway to your design mind." The method she utilizes begins with a "nucleus word" or short phrase that "acts as the stimulus for recording all the associations that spring to mind in a very brief period of time."
You take your nucleus word or phrase and write it in the middle of a page, drawing a circle around it. Then you let yourself free associate. Every thought, feeling, or idea that comes from that word you write down in little bubbles away from that "nucleus word" but attached by a line. You keep going until you feel the shift in your mind to quit. You may have to do this several times before you recognize the feeling. It's ok - tell yourself it's just play.
She tells us that this methodology is not "merely the spilling of words and phrases at random, but something much more complex: for the Design mind, each association leads inexorably to the next with a logic of its own even though the Sign mind does not perceive the connection." This is learning to write from the creative side of your brain.
This methodology of clustering is like throwing a rock into a pond, it unfolds from the center, each ripple, or thought moving outward. After the completion of the clustering, (and you will learn to know when this occurs), you write a vignette, a poem, whatever strikes you, using the words from your clustering spider web and whatever else comes out of you.
What you'll find is an interesting piece, almost like poetry, with an undiscovered beauty emanating from within you. It's a very rewarding experience.
With enough practice, you won't even need to do the "clustering" approach, as you'll be able to feel the shift internally into that hemisphere of the brain, not unlike shifting into high gear.
Peter Elbow, the author of "Writing with Power" says, "When we were little we had no difficulty sounding the way we felt; thus most little children speak and write with real voice."
Read your writing aloud. Words are meant to be spoken aloud. When you hear it, you'll hear those places where it doesn't flow and you'll feel it. They'll stick out of your sentences and paragraphs like stickers in your socks.
As a writer - it's also important that you allow yourself time. Time to practice, time to play, time to perfect. With time, you'll discover yourself as a writer. You'll find your voice. You'll lift it to sing.
Try different things. Write poetry. Write a movie critique. Write a story. Try writing a newspaper article, a how-to. Try describing the indescribable. Challenge yourself. There's nothing that says you have to show it to anybody. Most professional writers (and best-selling authors) have scads of journals they wouldn't even show their best friends.
Writing doesn't necessarily mean sculpting every word from your mind with a chisel. Your head is not a rock. Be gentle with yourself. Enjoy, kick back, let loose, try this clustering method, learn to relax that muscle between your ears, and who knows, one day, all of sudden, you just might find yourself writing.
Naturally.
About the Author
Laurie Brenner, former newspaper editor, now writes inspiring, humorous, uplifting stories and articles for everyone. Check out her websites:Little Book of Becoming, New Age Articles, LOA Masters, WildWind
How To Say Goodbye Using Memorial Service Poems by Ben Anton 0 votes vote Death is not an easy subject for anyone to discuss or cope with. Often y
Death is not an easy subject for anyone to discuss or cope with. Often your emotions are so stirred up that it can be very difficult to come up with words of condolence for those that need them. Sometime you find yourself not saying anything at all and that can be even worse than saying the wrong thing. Poems can be the perfect way to get across what you want to say. Memorial service poems can actually put everyone more at ease during a funeral or memorial service.
Grieving family and friends want others to remember their loved one's life and acknowledge them. Seeing a life celebrated and hearing words of sympathy and celebration from others often helps them move through their own grief journey. The right memorial service poetry can really set the mood for the whole ceremony. Written words can be much more effective than spoken condolences at reaching a grieving person's heart. Simple and soothing words acknowledging a loss, accompanied by a meaningful sympathy or condolence poem can touch a heart like nothing else can.
Having a memorial poem or poetry to look back upon can really be an emotional strengthener. A poem can be about the life of the one who has passed or just kind words. The memorial poem could be about an event in the loved one's life or just loving words of a close friend. Often these mementos are kept for many years, framed for the family or left at the gravesite as a reminder of the deceased.
There are numerous memorial service, condolence and sympathy poems written and easily available. Poems ranging from heartfelt and sad to lighthearted and even funny have been written by amateur and professional poetry writers to put words to the feelings that are expressed after someone has died. If you are asked to speak at a memorial or funeral service and are having a difficult time writing down how this loss has made you or the family feel, consider including a poem in your tribute.
To add a poem to your eulogy or condolence letter, first you must consider who the person was and what they would have appreciated or enjoyed read. If the person who passed enjoyed the outdoors, maybe a memorial poem with colorful forest or nature-like imagery would speak to the audience, and properly pay tribute to the lost loved one. If the deceased was a practical joker or light-hearted individual, maybe a poem that incorporates a bit of humor would remind their family of what a happy spirit that individual was.
Look at your local bookstore for poetry books that have memorial or condolence poems included or search online for posted poetry. Poems can range in topics and styles - flowery or overly-dramatic poetry is not the only option available. Many families and friends choose to write their own poems or essays about the deceased to have read at memorial services or posted on online memorial sites. This is a great way for those that are able to express their feelings on paper to do so and share those words to help heal the grief experienced by other family members as well.
Using poetry to help with grief, to express love or pain and to memorialize a friend or family member is very powerful and will be appreciated by others who have experienced a loss.
~ Ben Anton, 2008
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Memorial Service Poems - Read about honoring a loved one at a memorial service on the Valley of Life website. The website also provides a safe and free online memorial service where you can celebrate your loved one's life.
Grieving family and friends want others to remember their loved one's life and acknowledge them. Seeing a life celebrated and hearing words of sympathy and celebration from others often helps them move through their own grief journey. The right memorial service poetry can really set the mood for the whole ceremony. Written words can be much more effective than spoken condolences at reaching a grieving person's heart. Simple and soothing words acknowledging a loss, accompanied by a meaningful sympathy or condolence poem can touch a heart like nothing else can.
Having a memorial poem or poetry to look back upon can really be an emotional strengthener. A poem can be about the life of the one who has passed or just kind words. The memorial poem could be about an event in the loved one's life or just loving words of a close friend. Often these mementos are kept for many years, framed for the family or left at the gravesite as a reminder of the deceased.
There are numerous memorial service, condolence and sympathy poems written and easily available. Poems ranging from heartfelt and sad to lighthearted and even funny have been written by amateur and professional poetry writers to put words to the feelings that are expressed after someone has died. If you are asked to speak at a memorial or funeral service and are having a difficult time writing down how this loss has made you or the family feel, consider including a poem in your tribute.
To add a poem to your eulogy or condolence letter, first you must consider who the person was and what they would have appreciated or enjoyed read. If the person who passed enjoyed the outdoors, maybe a memorial poem with colorful forest or nature-like imagery would speak to the audience, and properly pay tribute to the lost loved one. If the deceased was a practical joker or light-hearted individual, maybe a poem that incorporates a bit of humor would remind their family of what a happy spirit that individual was.
Look at your local bookstore for poetry books that have memorial or condolence poems included or search online for posted poetry. Poems can range in topics and styles - flowery or overly-dramatic poetry is not the only option available. Many families and friends choose to write their own poems or essays about the deceased to have read at memorial services or posted on online memorial sites. This is a great way for those that are able to express their feelings on paper to do so and share those words to help heal the grief experienced by other family members as well.
Using poetry to help with grief, to express love or pain and to memorialize a friend or family member is very powerful and will be appreciated by others who have experienced a loss.
~ Ben Anton, 2008
About the Author
Memorial Service Poems - Read about honoring a loved one at a memorial service on the Valley of Life website. The website also provides a safe and free online memorial service where you can celebrate your loved one's life.
Give an original, personal Valentine's Day poem by Gil Gamesh 0 votes vote Not sure what to give for Valentines Day? A Valentine's Day poem will e
Not sure what to give for Valentines Day? A Valentine's Day poem will express your love better than anything.
Are you undecided over what to give your loved one this Valentine's Day? Trawling the shops or the web for something that seems just right? Fed up with the flowers and chocolates? Here's where your search ends.
Poetry is the language of the soul, highly suitable for a Valentine's Day gift. A uniquely authored poem, composed specially for you to express your appreciation of your loved one, printed on a tissue-lined card of your choice, boxed and gift-wrapped, will strike a deep chord in your loved one's heart. You can play your part in the writing of the poem, too.
A personally, uniquely authored poem, that has never before been seen or heard, shows better than any bauble how much you care. Forget those thoughts of jewelry, expensive gadgets, diet-busting chocolate or expensive flowers that soon fade. Go straight to the heart with a personal Valentine poem written especially, uniquely for you and your loved one. Words can never be stolen, can be committed to memory and will be treasured in the heart even if all worldly goods have disappeared.
Your uniquely written Valentine's Day poem will be presented in an exclusively designed hand-made card + gift box. Your favorite verse will be on the front of the card, which creates an emotional focal point. In addition, the package can include 'frame-ready' prints so that you can hang your poem on the wall, original drafts and bonus e-books.
Your poem is expressly written for you and with your approval at every stage. You are in personal touch with the poet from first draft to finished copy. Get your Valentine's Day poem right from the poet's pen here.
About the Author
Blogger, writer, sailor, reader, music-lover, father, husband.
Are you undecided over what to give your loved one this Valentine's Day? Trawling the shops or the web for something that seems just right? Fed up with the flowers and chocolates? Here's where your search ends.
Poetry is the language of the soul, highly suitable for a Valentine's Day gift. A uniquely authored poem, composed specially for you to express your appreciation of your loved one, printed on a tissue-lined card of your choice, boxed and gift-wrapped, will strike a deep chord in your loved one's heart. You can play your part in the writing of the poem, too.
A personally, uniquely authored poem, that has never before been seen or heard, shows better than any bauble how much you care. Forget those thoughts of jewelry, expensive gadgets, diet-busting chocolate or expensive flowers that soon fade. Go straight to the heart with a personal Valentine poem written especially, uniquely for you and your loved one. Words can never be stolen, can be committed to memory and will be treasured in the heart even if all worldly goods have disappeared.
Your uniquely written Valentine's Day poem will be presented in an exclusively designed hand-made card + gift box. Your favorite verse will be on the front of the card, which creates an emotional focal point. In addition, the package can include 'frame-ready' prints so that you can hang your poem on the wall, original drafts and bonus e-books.
Your poem is expressly written for you and with your approval at every stage. You are in personal touch with the poet from first draft to finished copy. Get your Valentine's Day poem right from the poet's pen here.
About the Author
Blogger, writer, sailor, reader, music-lover, father, husband.
Getting Wedding Poetry For Your Wedding by Sarah Reeders 1 vote vote Words crafted in a poem can make tell such beautiful stories. This is true fo
Words crafted in a poem can make tell such beautiful stories. This is true for wedding poetry and getting a poetry reading at wedding. The wedding poetry can leave a great and lasting impression, but there is a right way and a wrong way of going about wedding poetry.
What You Will Find In This Wedding Poetry Article: * How to find wedding poetry * What to look for when getting wedding poetry
::: How To Find Wedding Poetry ::: If you have been thinking that you have no creative poetry that you can come up with, rest assured that there are many people who can help you with getting the right wedding poetry for the occasion.
On the internet are many talented and gifted professional writers who write wedding poetry. Each having their own characteristics and benefits and negatives serves us, and enables you find wedding poetry that is right for your wedding. The prices vary with the various wedding poetry writers, so it can be beneficial to seek around several places. You may also find wedding poetry that is ready made. This would be able to fit even the smallest of budgets, and still give great results.
::: What To Look For When Getting Wedding Poetry ::: The wedding poetry is not like writing a letter. Poetry needs creative abilities, and some people have it, while others don't. Finding someone who has that ability to write wedding poetry is always necessary if you find that you can't get creative enough to come up with wedding poetry.
The first thing you will want to do is to think back to any weddings you have been to that had wedding poetry that you liked the style of. You could ask the couple for the wedding poetry writers details.
Online finding wedding poetry writers is both hard and easy. Though there are great wedding poetry writers, there are the odd few who don't know how to write great wedding poetry or at least the kind of wedding poetry you want at your wedding. The first thing to do is look at several places. Then look at the average prices you find. This will allow you to spot the extra cheap, and usually extra cheap value wedding poetry. Next would be to look at samples of the wedding poetry writers - wedding poetry work. This would allow you to find the wedding poetry style that you like best.
The wedding poetry at a wedding can stir emotion in the heart, and convey a message that creates memories. Great wedding poetry connects people and speaks in words what the bride and groom are feeling and what the future may hold for them. Finding the right wedding poetry is paramount to make this happen. With some research, you can find the person who can make the wedding poetry that will create the impression you seek.
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What You Will Find In This Wedding Poetry Article: * How to find wedding poetry * What to look for when getting wedding poetry
::: How To Find Wedding Poetry ::: If you have been thinking that you have no creative poetry that you can come up with, rest assured that there are many people who can help you with getting the right wedding poetry for the occasion.
On the internet are many talented and gifted professional writers who write wedding poetry. Each having their own characteristics and benefits and negatives serves us, and enables you find wedding poetry that is right for your wedding. The prices vary with the various wedding poetry writers, so it can be beneficial to seek around several places. You may also find wedding poetry that is ready made. This would be able to fit even the smallest of budgets, and still give great results.
::: What To Look For When Getting Wedding Poetry ::: The wedding poetry is not like writing a letter. Poetry needs creative abilities, and some people have it, while others don't. Finding someone who has that ability to write wedding poetry is always necessary if you find that you can't get creative enough to come up with wedding poetry.
The first thing you will want to do is to think back to any weddings you have been to that had wedding poetry that you liked the style of. You could ask the couple for the wedding poetry writers details.
Online finding wedding poetry writers is both hard and easy. Though there are great wedding poetry writers, there are the odd few who don't know how to write great wedding poetry or at least the kind of wedding poetry you want at your wedding. The first thing to do is look at several places. Then look at the average prices you find. This will allow you to spot the extra cheap, and usually extra cheap value wedding poetry. Next would be to look at samples of the wedding poetry writers - wedding poetry work. This would allow you to find the wedding poetry style that you like best.
The wedding poetry at a wedding can stir emotion in the heart, and convey a message that creates memories. Great wedding poetry connects people and speaks in words what the bride and groom are feeling and what the future may hold for them. Finding the right wedding poetry is paramount to make this happen. With some research, you can find the person who can make the wedding poetry that will create the impression you seek.
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Personalized Name Poems by Peter Tremayne 0 votes vote Personalized name poems can be used for all occasions from a simple birthday wish, to a bes
Personalized name poems can be used for all occasions from a simple birthday wish, to a best mans speech, or even a beautiful and thoughtful gesture for a bereavement.
What a wonderful idea, a poem created by a poet on a subject personal to you with all your own content. Putting together the thoughts and emotions you want to convey and presenting them in verse, rhyming and co-ordinated. It makes your ideas come to life, providing you with a well-structured poem centred on issues close to your heart.
Young men or women struggling to get the words out of how they find someone attractive, needn't worry anymore, with a few lines of information the poet is able to conjure up the ideal words to get the message across, in a much more imaginative and original way.
People often find it difficult to convey their thoughts when writing in cards for their immediate family and close friends. But by relaying some of their memories of their times together, this can be transposed into a delightful little keepsake of which will linger in the memory far beyond a conventional gift.
The rhyming side of the poem introduces a jovial aspect to the finished piece of prose, it forces sometimes-unusual words to work together, the poet thinks 'out of the box' and this lateral thinking brings with it a unique and original concept.
People often keep Birthday Cards or Christmas Cards for a long time, this does seem futile at times because in the card may be 2 lines of text, of which the majority is saying the usual "Happy Christmas/Birthday" etc. There is obviously a mass produced poem from the manufacturer in there. But who really reads it and actually appreciates the sentiment?
A personalized name poem is actually a 'story' with a start, beginning and end, which reflects the relationship between the sender and receiver. A much more meaningful and informal way of emotional correspondence. It has the ability to link, beautifully; events, feelings and people.
The development of mass communication means that a personalized poem can also be sent by email. So there are no time delays like waiting for the post, no matter what distances are involved. A fantastic way to deliver a meaningful gift, if time is of the essence.
The personalized name poem can be printed on cards or good quality paper to be presented as a gift, or just simply recited at an event, over the phone or one to one.
The theme of the poem can be set as well. The poem doesn't have to be jovial; it can be used as a serious piece, to affirm a persons feelings or as an apology. There are also sad times in life where a personalized name poem would be a fitting gesture, like a reading at a funeral. Its properties can be used to relate to a story of the deceased or to convey the thoughts of the mourner.
Personalized name poems are as versatile as a blank sheet of paper. It is the opportunity to create something special that will be remembered forever in the minds of the receiver. There are literally no limitations.
Is there a gift more meaningful?
About the Author
For more information on how to have your own personalized poem created for you, go to Gifts That Rhyme
What a wonderful idea, a poem created by a poet on a subject personal to you with all your own content. Putting together the thoughts and emotions you want to convey and presenting them in verse, rhyming and co-ordinated. It makes your ideas come to life, providing you with a well-structured poem centred on issues close to your heart.
Young men or women struggling to get the words out of how they find someone attractive, needn't worry anymore, with a few lines of information the poet is able to conjure up the ideal words to get the message across, in a much more imaginative and original way.
People often find it difficult to convey their thoughts when writing in cards for their immediate family and close friends. But by relaying some of their memories of their times together, this can be transposed into a delightful little keepsake of which will linger in the memory far beyond a conventional gift.
The rhyming side of the poem introduces a jovial aspect to the finished piece of prose, it forces sometimes-unusual words to work together, the poet thinks 'out of the box' and this lateral thinking brings with it a unique and original concept.
People often keep Birthday Cards or Christmas Cards for a long time, this does seem futile at times because in the card may be 2 lines of text, of which the majority is saying the usual "Happy Christmas/Birthday" etc. There is obviously a mass produced poem from the manufacturer in there. But who really reads it and actually appreciates the sentiment?
A personalized name poem is actually a 'story' with a start, beginning and end, which reflects the relationship between the sender and receiver. A much more meaningful and informal way of emotional correspondence. It has the ability to link, beautifully; events, feelings and people.
The development of mass communication means that a personalized poem can also be sent by email. So there are no time delays like waiting for the post, no matter what distances are involved. A fantastic way to deliver a meaningful gift, if time is of the essence.
The personalized name poem can be printed on cards or good quality paper to be presented as a gift, or just simply recited at an event, over the phone or one to one.
The theme of the poem can be set as well. The poem doesn't have to be jovial; it can be used as a serious piece, to affirm a persons feelings or as an apology. There are also sad times in life where a personalized name poem would be a fitting gesture, like a reading at a funeral. Its properties can be used to relate to a story of the deceased or to convey the thoughts of the mourner.
Personalized name poems are as versatile as a blank sheet of paper. It is the opportunity to create something special that will be remembered forever in the minds of the receiver. There are literally no limitations.
Is there a gift more meaningful?
About the Author
For more information on how to have your own personalized poem created for you, go to Gifts That Rhyme
Maya Angelou's Story by Sam Leung 0 votes vote Renowned author, poet and professor Maya Angelou will deliver the keynote address at the Women's Fo
Renowned author, poet and professor Maya Angelou will deliver the keynote address at the Women's Foodservice Forum's annual conference in the Hyatt Regency in Dallas March 21-24, which will mark the forum 10 years.
The conference, the theme of which is "Open minds. Opening doors: Leadership in the New World" will be considered as the executive women play in affecting change in the foodservice industry during this transitional phase in the next millennium. The event will be speakers, workshops and discussions focusing on transitional issues and challenges that lie ahead. It will also be able to sessions in three different "tracks" for the executive branch, the emerging leader and entrepreneur.
"Our national conference committee left no stone unturned in finding the resources to challenge participants," said VFF President Charles Cooper. "
Angelou will speak participants from the new leaders at the banquet on March 23. Her accomplishments include writing the 10 most popular books, speaking in five languages, has received two awards an Emmy for her role in "Roots" and "Georgia", the publication of numerous poems and journal articles, letters and deliver the presidential first poem President Bill Clinton in 1993, and as a professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University in North Carolina.
Another speaker of the event will be M. Douglas Ivester, the chief executive and chairman of the Coca-Cola Co. He will step up to the podium at the conference, the general assembly, to share ideas he has received in 18 years in the industry.
Leading the discussion on how changes in technology, demographics and economics overlap with the creation of new opportunities for women in public life - and how these changes possible both organizations and the society in general-it will be author and consultant Sally Helgesen. His last title, "Daily Revolutionaries: Working Women and the Transformation of American life, documents and analyzes the impact that the revolution in American society.
In addition, the conference will celebrate the opening of the preliminary results of this study WFF project funded by examining a number of senior positions in the foodservice, which are held by women. The results of the Catalyst, a nonprofit research organization, includes the names, responsibilities and income.
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The conference, the theme of which is "Open minds. Opening doors: Leadership in the New World" will be considered as the executive women play in affecting change in the foodservice industry during this transitional phase in the next millennium. The event will be speakers, workshops and discussions focusing on transitional issues and challenges that lie ahead. It will also be able to sessions in three different "tracks" for the executive branch, the emerging leader and entrepreneur.
"Our national conference committee left no stone unturned in finding the resources to challenge participants," said VFF President Charles Cooper. "
Angelou will speak participants from the new leaders at the banquet on March 23. Her accomplishments include writing the 10 most popular books, speaking in five languages, has received two awards an Emmy for her role in "Roots" and "Georgia", the publication of numerous poems and journal articles, letters and deliver the presidential first poem President Bill Clinton in 1993, and as a professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University in North Carolina.
Another speaker of the event will be M. Douglas Ivester, the chief executive and chairman of the Coca-Cola Co. He will step up to the podium at the conference, the general assembly, to share ideas he has received in 18 years in the industry.
Leading the discussion on how changes in technology, demographics and economics overlap with the creation of new opportunities for women in public life - and how these changes possible both organizations and the society in general-it will be author and consultant Sally Helgesen. His last title, "Daily Revolutionaries: Working Women and the Transformation of American life, documents and analyzes the impact that the revolution in American society.
In addition, the conference will celebrate the opening of the preliminary results of this study WFF project funded by examining a number of senior positions in the foodservice, which are held by women. The results of the Catalyst, a nonprofit research organization, includes the names, responsibilities and income.
About the Author
Read about Maya Angelou Timeline,Facts About Maya Angelou,When Did Maya Angelou Born,When Did Maya Angelou Die
Borrowed Poetry: A Poetry Scavenger Hunt by Holly Bliss 2 votes vote Borrowed poetry is my own term for the type of poem that is created by scaven
Borrowed poetry is my own term for the type of poem that is created by scavenging for bits of sentences or phrases from other sources.
When done correctly, it is far from plagiarism. Instead, borrowed poetry pays homage, brings new life, or it can bring an added depth to the words of others.
~*~
Cento/Semi Cento
Of the three forms I will share today, the cento is the oldest. It comes from the minds of ancient Greece and Rome, and its purpose was to honor. "In Latin the word cento means 'patchwork,' and the verse form resembles a quilt of discrete lines stitched together to make a whole. The word cento is also Italian for 'one hundred,' says NY Times writer David Lehman (Lehman). Even though it means patchwork, it should flow together seamlessly.
BRIEF HISTORY
In a Malleable Jangle article Giles Goodland states, "The cento as a form was first developed in ancient Greece when poets started stitching together their own poems entirely from lines or verses taken from Homer. This form of poetry later became known as the cento, from the Latin word for patchwork, or perhaps from kentron, a Greek word meaning to graft trees." There are not many centos that have endured the ravages of time, but I find it interesting that a short one is on the leg of an Egyptian statue (Goodland).
MUST HAVES
---Lines must be gathered from poetry.
---Must never add more words.
---Must never remove any words - no matter how inconvenient they may be.
---Must never change a word - take them as the are.
COULD HAVES or What's The Poet's Choice In All This?
---Can be any number of lines
---Rhyme or not.
OF NOTE
VARIATION 1: A variation on the cento is the semi-cento. Remember that cento is also Italian for one hundred? The semi-cento assumes the general cento is one hundred lines long, and thus states that a semi-cento is fifty lines long. All other cento rules apply.
VARIATION 2: Another variation is the cento collage. In this version you would mesh your own words with lines from other poets.
Final note: Please, please, please, always quote your source. Place a key or notes at the bottom of your poem indicating which lines were originated by whom. As writers we, above all, know how it would feel if someone took credit for our work.
~*~
Found Poetry
Unlike the cento and semi-cento, found poetry can be discovered anywhere. The very heart of this form is to turn something that wasn't born poetry - into a poem. Similar to found art, a found poem can be discovered anywhere: from words on street signs to overheard conversation; from notes and letters to magazine and newspaper articles.
BRIEF HISTORY
According to the Teachers and Writers Handbook of Poetry by Ron Padgett, "some of the earliest and most engrossing found poetry is in Charles Reznikoff's Testimony, based on courtroom trials" (Padgett, 79).
MUST HAVES
---Must find words somewhere.
---Must format those words so they take on a poetic quality - placing line breaks, italics, bolding, etc. in order to create emphasis and depth.
---Must never add more words.
---Must never remove any words - no matter how inconvenient they may be.
---Must never change a word - take them as the are.
COULD HAVES or What's The Poet's Choice In All This?
---Where you find your words.
---How many lines long you make it.
---How you choose to arrange them.
---Whether or not you use a whole letter or article, etc. Remember, you may not remove words, but nothing I've seen says you may not use only the beginning (middle or end) section of something. However, I would make mention of it in my source notes.
OF NOTE
VARIATION: I have also seen a variation on this that seems to cross the found poem and the cento. In this version the poet will take bits from several sources (like the cento), but it can be from anywhere (like the found poem).
***Please, please, please again - always quote your source. Place a key or notes at the bottom of your poem indicating where you scavenged the words for your poem. Indicated who said it (if known) and where it was said, in the case of something overheard.
~*~
First Lines Poem
A first lines poem is similar to a cento, in that you use poetry to create it. This time you use your own poetry. I haven't seen this poetry form anywhere but writing.com. I participated in a contest in the fall of 2002, so this may be a newer poetry form. Unfortunately, I believe the member who hosted the contest is no longer with the site, so I cannot confirm where they found the poetry form or where (and why) they came up with the idea.
BRIEF HISTORY
As stated above, I am unsure of the history of this form other than a contest I participated in just over five years ago. I include it with this group due to its similar borrowing nature.
MUST HAVES
---Must have written at least as many poems as you wish your first lines poem to be.
COULD HAVES or What's The Poet's Choice In All This?
---Can be any number of lines.
---Can rhyme or not.
OF NOTE
Plagiarism is not a problem when using your own work. However, you might want to tell the reader where they can find the original first lines.
SOURCES:
Goodland, Giles. "Notes towards a History of The Cento." Malleable Jangle 01 Mar 2008.
Lehman, David. "POEM; These Fragments I Have Shored." NY Times 02 Apr 2006 01 Mar 2008.
Padgett, Ron. Teachers & Writers Handbook of Poetic Forms. 2nd. NY: T & W Books, 2000.
About the Author
© 2008 H. Bliss. This document may be redistributed in its unedited form on the condition all copyright references are kept intact along with hyperlinked URLs.
About the Author: Using writing as paint on the canvas of her life, Holly Bliss is a newsletter editor and author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Poetry.
When done correctly, it is far from plagiarism. Instead, borrowed poetry pays homage, brings new life, or it can bring an added depth to the words of others.
~*~
Cento/Semi Cento
Of the three forms I will share today, the cento is the oldest. It comes from the minds of ancient Greece and Rome, and its purpose was to honor. "In Latin the word cento means 'patchwork,' and the verse form resembles a quilt of discrete lines stitched together to make a whole. The word cento is also Italian for 'one hundred,' says NY Times writer David Lehman (Lehman). Even though it means patchwork, it should flow together seamlessly.
BRIEF HISTORY
In a Malleable Jangle article Giles Goodland states, "The cento as a form was first developed in ancient Greece when poets started stitching together their own poems entirely from lines or verses taken from Homer. This form of poetry later became known as the cento, from the Latin word for patchwork, or perhaps from kentron, a Greek word meaning to graft trees." There are not many centos that have endured the ravages of time, but I find it interesting that a short one is on the leg of an Egyptian statue (Goodland).
MUST HAVES
---Lines must be gathered from poetry.
---Must never add more words.
---Must never remove any words - no matter how inconvenient they may be.
---Must never change a word - take them as the are.
COULD HAVES or What's The Poet's Choice In All This?
---Can be any number of lines
---Rhyme or not.
OF NOTE
VARIATION 1: A variation on the cento is the semi-cento. Remember that cento is also Italian for one hundred? The semi-cento assumes the general cento is one hundred lines long, and thus states that a semi-cento is fifty lines long. All other cento rules apply.
VARIATION 2: Another variation is the cento collage. In this version you would mesh your own words with lines from other poets.
Final note: Please, please, please, always quote your source. Place a key or notes at the bottom of your poem indicating which lines were originated by whom. As writers we, above all, know how it would feel if someone took credit for our work.
~*~
Found Poetry
Unlike the cento and semi-cento, found poetry can be discovered anywhere. The very heart of this form is to turn something that wasn't born poetry - into a poem. Similar to found art, a found poem can be discovered anywhere: from words on street signs to overheard conversation; from notes and letters to magazine and newspaper articles.
BRIEF HISTORY
According to the Teachers and Writers Handbook of Poetry by Ron Padgett, "some of the earliest and most engrossing found poetry is in Charles Reznikoff's Testimony, based on courtroom trials" (Padgett, 79).
MUST HAVES
---Must find words somewhere.
---Must format those words so they take on a poetic quality - placing line breaks, italics, bolding, etc. in order to create emphasis and depth.
---Must never add more words.
---Must never remove any words - no matter how inconvenient they may be.
---Must never change a word - take them as the are.
COULD HAVES or What's The Poet's Choice In All This?
---Where you find your words.
---How many lines long you make it.
---How you choose to arrange them.
---Whether or not you use a whole letter or article, etc. Remember, you may not remove words, but nothing I've seen says you may not use only the beginning (middle or end) section of something. However, I would make mention of it in my source notes.
OF NOTE
VARIATION: I have also seen a variation on this that seems to cross the found poem and the cento. In this version the poet will take bits from several sources (like the cento), but it can be from anywhere (like the found poem).
***Please, please, please again - always quote your source. Place a key or notes at the bottom of your poem indicating where you scavenged the words for your poem. Indicated who said it (if known) and where it was said, in the case of something overheard.
~*~
First Lines Poem
A first lines poem is similar to a cento, in that you use poetry to create it. This time you use your own poetry. I haven't seen this poetry form anywhere but writing.com. I participated in a contest in the fall of 2002, so this may be a newer poetry form. Unfortunately, I believe the member who hosted the contest is no longer with the site, so I cannot confirm where they found the poetry form or where (and why) they came up with the idea.
BRIEF HISTORY
As stated above, I am unsure of the history of this form other than a contest I participated in just over five years ago. I include it with this group due to its similar borrowing nature.
MUST HAVES
---Must have written at least as many poems as you wish your first lines poem to be.
COULD HAVES or What's The Poet's Choice In All This?
---Can be any number of lines.
---Can rhyme or not.
OF NOTE
Plagiarism is not a problem when using your own work. However, you might want to tell the reader where they can find the original first lines.
SOURCES:
Goodland, Giles. "Notes towards a History of The Cento." Malleable Jangle 01 Mar 2008.
Lehman, David. "POEM; These Fragments I Have Shored." NY Times 02 Apr 2006 01 Mar 2008.
Padgett, Ron. Teachers & Writers Handbook of Poetic Forms. 2nd. NY: T & W Books, 2000.
About the Author
© 2008 H. Bliss. This document may be redistributed in its unedited form on the condition all copyright references are kept intact along with hyperlinked URLs.
About the Author: Using writing as paint on the canvas of her life, Holly Bliss is a newsletter editor and author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Poetry.
A TRUE POETIC STORY OF SURVIVAL by Aleja Bennett 1 vote vote THIS WOMAN WRITES TRUE POETIC STRATEGIES TO HELP US COPE WITH SO MANY THINGS IN LIFE,
THIS WOMAN WRITES TRUE POETIC STRATEGIES TO HELP US COPE WITH SO MANY THINGS IN LIFE,
ONLY THE STRONG CAN SURVIVE
SUCH AS ABUSE-NEGLECT-ADDICTIONS-BEREAVEMENT AND PAIN. HER WRITING TEACHES ALL TO FORGIVE SO THAT THE HEALING PROCESS WILL BEGIN.
SHE HAS A TRUE STORY OF SURVIVAL. FROM BEING ABANDONED TO ADOPTION-ABUSE-ADDICTIONS-LOSING AND REGAINING HER CHILDREN.
TO ONE DAY BEING A PUBLISHED AUTHOR. A TRUE POETIC STORY OF SURVIVAL
ALEJA'S POETIC STRATEGY IN RECOVERY MARCH 2008
THIS POEM BELOW WILL BE APART OF ALEJA'S POETIC STRATEGY IN RECOVERY MARCH 2008
TO BE OR NOT TO BE
Could it be me?
Maybe you Why not we?
Master's of this poetry
As far as we both can see
Maybe God will allow it to be.
Suddenly-quite frequently
Life changes for the good Or even the bad
Often it will make us sad
So fortunately-unfortunately It is to be or not to be.
Your quest-our quest Given it little or even your best
Accomplished-groomed-well polished
Often or not even acknowledged
High school maybe not-college
This may even sound foolish.
But however this is me
My inner within-written poetry
So smite thee-if you plea For I am to be or not to be.
Author Aleja Bennett Copyright ©2008
This book serves five purposes, for the bereaved-neglected-addicts-alcoholics and the abused.
You will embark upon tragedies such as The World Trade Center to New Orleans terrible lost. Topics such as forgiveness to a process of healing are all summed up in this poetic strategy.
It is now time for change in America including the outer parts of the world. We must go from negative to positive from drugs to no drugs at all.
To the alcoholic there is a quitting solution-you will read true poetic stories of survival, almost everything that life may throw your way.
Here is a new strategy that will make the world a safer-kinder environment for us all to live in. Let's start to change negative thoughts then together we can change the world.
United we inspire together we achieve.
biography: Since high school I was given the creative thought which led me to write my life story. The English teacher stated that I would be a writer someday but this little girl just thought about singing and dancing. To this day pen and paper are the closest friends to me.
It became very hard, suddenly at the age of 25 beautiful poems kept popping up in my sleep and as I traveled to and from normal everyday activity.
Poetry has helped me to live-forgive-love and to be loved.
http://alejabennett.com
About the Author
Since High school the English teacher stated that I would be a writer someday,instead singing-dancing was the only talents that I really thought that was deep within me.
Instead the deeply wounded hidden secrets of childhood abuse displayed the Author in me at the age of twenty five. Now paper and pen are so close by as if we were related.
ONLY THE STRONG CAN SURVIVE
SUCH AS ABUSE-NEGLECT-ADDICTIONS-BEREAVEMENT AND PAIN. HER WRITING TEACHES ALL TO FORGIVE SO THAT THE HEALING PROCESS WILL BEGIN.
SHE HAS A TRUE STORY OF SURVIVAL. FROM BEING ABANDONED TO ADOPTION-ABUSE-ADDICTIONS-LOSING AND REGAINING HER CHILDREN.
TO ONE DAY BEING A PUBLISHED AUTHOR. A TRUE POETIC STORY OF SURVIVAL
ALEJA'S POETIC STRATEGY IN RECOVERY MARCH 2008
THIS POEM BELOW WILL BE APART OF ALEJA'S POETIC STRATEGY IN RECOVERY MARCH 2008
TO BE OR NOT TO BE
Could it be me?
Maybe you Why not we?
Master's of this poetry
As far as we both can see
Maybe God will allow it to be.
Suddenly-quite frequently
Life changes for the good Or even the bad
Often it will make us sad
So fortunately-unfortunately It is to be or not to be.
Your quest-our quest Given it little or even your best
Accomplished-groomed-well polished
Often or not even acknowledged
High school maybe not-college
This may even sound foolish.
But however this is me
My inner within-written poetry
So smite thee-if you plea For I am to be or not to be.
Author Aleja Bennett Copyright ©2008
This book serves five purposes, for the bereaved-neglected-addicts-alcoholics and the abused.
You will embark upon tragedies such as The World Trade Center to New Orleans terrible lost. Topics such as forgiveness to a process of healing are all summed up in this poetic strategy.
It is now time for change in America including the outer parts of the world. We must go from negative to positive from drugs to no drugs at all.
To the alcoholic there is a quitting solution-you will read true poetic stories of survival, almost everything that life may throw your way.
Here is a new strategy that will make the world a safer-kinder environment for us all to live in. Let's start to change negative thoughts then together we can change the world.
United we inspire together we achieve.
biography: Since high school I was given the creative thought which led me to write my life story. The English teacher stated that I would be a writer someday but this little girl just thought about singing and dancing. To this day pen and paper are the closest friends to me.
It became very hard, suddenly at the age of 25 beautiful poems kept popping up in my sleep and as I traveled to and from normal everyday activity.
Poetry has helped me to live-forgive-love and to be loved.
http://alejabennett.com
About the Author
Since High school the English teacher stated that I would be a writer someday,instead singing-dancing was the only talents that I really thought that was deep within me.
Instead the deeply wounded hidden secrets of childhood abuse displayed the Author in me at the age of twenty five. Now paper and pen are so close by as if we were related.
Plato, Aristotle, and Me on the Contemplative Life and Retirement by Bernie Dahl, M.D. 0 votes vote As I approach my seventieth birthday, I look b
As I approach my seventieth birthday, I look back in wonderment at my careers, defined in the broadest sense, as a student (to age 33!), then a physician and consultant, as well as a real estate developer, and more recently, as an author, publisher, and keynote speaker. Today in my "early retirement", I have been as busy as ever, jousting with challenges and opportunities, instead of simply lying on the beach, enjoying a life of leisure.
The key question may be: What is the ideal retirement life? How does one go about making wise choices as to how to spend one's time, energy, emotions, and money in the golden years? As a life long student of the sciences, religion, and philosophy, I decided to address and answer these Socratic questions by returning to some other ancient Greek philosophers for wisdom and advice.
Plato, the Greek philosopher (424 BC-348 BC) wrote in The Republic that the best life of all is the life of philosophy, of rational thinking and reasoning. The life he defined was one of contemplation and leisure, in Greek eudiamonia, best translated to modern English not just as happiness, but as flourishing. He did note that you did need to have assets (money) and a safe place in which to live to enjoy such a life.
Aristotle (384 BC-322 BC), a student of Plato for 20 years, agreed with his teacher as regards the basic concepts of the contemplative life, of seeking excellence and virtue (arête), in ones life. However, he felt that it should not be a life of leisure, but one of action, of activity (ergon or function) in one's world. His position, clearly defined and supported in his Nicomachean Ethics, also indicated that in many other avenues of life beyond just philosophy, one can enjoy eudiamonia, translated literally as "good demons."
When I reached the age of 57, in 1995, I took early retirement because of some health concerns that might shorten my life. I had enjoyed decades as a student, with college degrees in Chemistry and Bible, an M.D. from Cornell University, pathology residency at the University of Vermont, and a stint as an Epidemic Intelligence Service Officer with the CDC in Atlanta. Perhaps due to some clerical error, at the tender age of 33, I was selected as Chief of Pathology at a medical center in Maine and co-founded Dahl-Chase Pathology Associates. I survived, even thrived and succeeded "in-the-trenches" of group medical practice for 25 years, as well as in consulting, lecturing and a side career in commercial and industrial real estate. In this process I gained insights and even some expertise in the world of leadership and the most important leadership skill, strategic thinking and planning.
As I entered retirement, I soon realized that I had carried with me the baggage of too much education, too many interests, too many opportunities, and too much money to simply live a peaceful and blissful contemplative life ala Plato. The greater problem was the process of selecting which specific projects would take my time, energy, emotions, and money (my favorite acronym TEEM). But then again I was an accomplished strategic planner, so this project should be very easy, both short and long term, since I may live longer than I expected.
I easily jettisoned the practice of medicine completely, by giving up my medical license. Yes, I had spent a great deal of time and money gaining those skills, but I had been consumed by it for 25 years. I had never been sued for malpractice, so why press my luck? It was easy to leave the practice, which carried my name, for I had designed the enterprise as a flattened hierarchy, maximizing synergy, the equal sharing with all the associates in the group. I did, however, maintain my contacts with key medical societies, where I networked and shared my wisdom and folly with younger physicians. It was time to give back, to be a mentor to repay my debt as a mentee. That has been most enjoyable and satisfying.
With the medical career gone, my commercial/industrial real estate career surfaced, as did my ownership in a small construction company and the Overhead Door Co. distributorship for half of Maine. As with the medical group, I shared ownership with the key managers, so again, I could easily work my way out of these ventures. It was euphemistically sort of a slow "garage sale" to get rid of real estate. The scholar had always been was given full access to workshops, mostly on writing, and courses on cassettes and CDs. After retirement I became an even more ardent workshop junkie and a steeped myself in philosophy, psychology, and religion, as a student and teacher. Having been banished to my parent's native land of Norway for the summer when I was 12-years old (to get me away from the "bad influence" of my friends), I have always had a Viking-style lust for travel, but without the classic raping and pillaging, of course. As a result, I merged my new world of scholarship and foreign travel, and added my life long pursuit of high-altitude mountaineering, sort of mountain madness with an element of class.
My life took an odd detour on October 23, 1999, when I just completed giving a workshop on Optimize Your Life! The One-page Strategic Planner in Portland, Maine and went up Mt. Washington, New Hampshire for a weekend to hike and enjoy the late fall foliage. Unfortunately, on Saturday morning there was a light rain and clouds hung oppressively in the valley and up over the mountains. My hiking buddies declined the joys of a day of hiking in the rain, so I went up to Tuckerman's Ravine solo and then up Lion Head Trail towards the Alpine Garden Trail on my way planned hike to the Auto Road and home.
As I climbed, the light rain turned into giant snowflakes. A veritable winter wonderland had replaced a dreary fall day. I was lured into a bright winter hike, and continued on for over an hour in spite of a marked increase in the wind. Then, "whiteout" conditions forced me to stop next to a huge cairn (a pile of rocks marking the trail) to wait out the storm. I climbed into my aluminized material bivvy sack and realized that I had my cell phone with me. I made a series of increasingly frustrating 911 calls, which left me wondering if my rescuers would come, let alone find my location.
As snow accumulated on my bivvy sack, I became concerned that my rescuers would not see me, so I slowly inched my up onto the surface of the snow and opened the end of my bivvy sack to evaluate my changing world. Unfortunately, gusts of wind filled my sack and, in spite of my efforts, tore it from my body. Now it me in a fall hiking outfit in an area known as "the home of the worst weather in the world" (April 12, 1934 wind speed: 231 miles per hour).
During that long night, with wind speeds up to 98 miles per hour, as I waited for rescue I had time to contemplate by past life. I made six promises that I would keep if I was rescued: to be insensitive criticism about my misadventure, to get rid of real estate, to make amends with my first wife and son, to get rid of excessive things, "stuff" in my life, to network with people from my past, and, above all, to simply my life. What would you be thinking, perhaps promising, as you faced imminent death?
Eventually, I gave up hope and simply waited for death. However, around midnight, my rescuers found me, took me off the mountain to a regional hospital for treatment of frost injuries, severe hypothermia, and rhabdomyolysis (the breakdown of muscle tissue due to voluntary and involuntary muscle flexing in an attempt to prevent/treat hypothermia).
Soon after my discharge from the hospital, Husson College in Maine invited me to share my experience and what I had learned the hard way. My presentation was entitled:
"Lessons for Living from a Mt. Washington Misadventure" offered three admonitions, pieces of advice from near death:
1) Be prepared to die! 2) Have a plan to live! 3) Do it now!
This presentation was recorded and broadcast on National Public Radio in New England, and I was invited to share my story in a range of speaking venues. About a year later, The Learning Channel coaxed me into a reenactment on Mt. Washington, and as a result of worldwide broadcasts, my new speaking career skyrocketed, featuring the Lessons keynote. With support from Mark Victor Hansen of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book series, I am writing the accompanying "misadventure book" and have completed Optimize Your Life! a book that merges personal and organizational strategic planning. This book has become an international best-seller with a worldwide Spanish translation by Random House, the world's largest publisher.
A simple, but deadly hike had lured me into the dynamic world of keynote speaking, as well as publishing, both well outside the confines of my historic world of medicine in which I had so much formal education and experienece. This world of deadlines, promises, and challenges became as hectic and demanding as the practice medicine. What had become of my peaceful contemplative retirement?
As I work on all my six promises, I focus on the toughest, to simplify my life, I remember my days in Benares (Varanasi), India, on the Ganges, when I saw hundreds of older Indian men in that phase of life, so well defined in Hinduism, of an ascetic, the sadhu or the sannyasin. There is a rejection of ordinary life and all that it means, in exchange for a search to attain moksha, the release from the cycle of samsara, re-incarnation. While a person may enter into this stage of life at any time, it is usually an older man that has raised his family, completed his business activities, and was fully retired. It may take an extreme form of the total rejection of household duties and responsibilities of the former stages of life. It may include the rejection of the religious beliefs, wherein ones even burns religious texts.
The sannyasins become wandering hermits, living life without any shelter or possessions. They eat when they can acquire food, but never enter into any work to acquire it; it must be given or found. They become holy men, seeking spiritual enlightenment and power, striving to achieve the true wisdom of the cosmos. Wow! That is easy to define, but a bit extreme. However, all my other five promises would be simply eliminated.
A less dramatic approach might be that described by psychologist Abraham Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs, which describes a person's motivation and resultant behavior as being determined by ones' needs. I could focus on the highest level, self-actualization and go beyond the basics of life and simply find a single "calling" and heed it.
But what single calling? I have decided that I would get rid of real estate in an orderly manner and complete succession planning for my business ventures. However, I would maintain a family life and continue my writing, speaking, and traveling on a more limited basis. High-altitude mountaineering might be over, after all, I am approaching 70 years of age, far beyond the ideal age of such risk-taking.
As the author of a monthly newsletter, I included in my January 2008 New Year's edition a list of the "10 Things I Want to Do Before I Die" and realized that I had drifted far from Plato's ideal life of contemplation and leisure. I think I will cruise through this year enjoying an Aristotelian life of active contemplation, being fully aware of Buddha's advice against striving, but in favor of living in the moment.
As I close this essay, I am forced to remember and share several paradoxes, ironies, even absurdities:
At the end of his Nicomacean Ethics (Book 10, Chapters 6 through 8) Aristotle seems to reverse himself and support Plato completely, noting that the contemplative philosophical life of leisure is the best.
The Buddha, when addressing one's life before death, gave us a poem that suggests the value, the appropriateness, of striving in one's life:
Every day a birdie on my shoulder asks: Is today the day? Are you doing all the things you should be doing? Are you being the person who you should be?
Plato stated that the purpose of philosophy is to prepare one for death.
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About the Author
Bernhoff A. Dahl, M.D., author, keynote speaker, consultant, humorist and mountaineer, is the author of the International Bestseller Optimize Your Life! Dr. Dahl can be reached at DrBDahl@aol.com, www.TrionicsUSA.com, or www.Path-Quest.com
The key question may be: What is the ideal retirement life? How does one go about making wise choices as to how to spend one's time, energy, emotions, and money in the golden years? As a life long student of the sciences, religion, and philosophy, I decided to address and answer these Socratic questions by returning to some other ancient Greek philosophers for wisdom and advice.
Plato, the Greek philosopher (424 BC-348 BC) wrote in The Republic that the best life of all is the life of philosophy, of rational thinking and reasoning. The life he defined was one of contemplation and leisure, in Greek eudiamonia, best translated to modern English not just as happiness, but as flourishing. He did note that you did need to have assets (money) and a safe place in which to live to enjoy such a life.
Aristotle (384 BC-322 BC), a student of Plato for 20 years, agreed with his teacher as regards the basic concepts of the contemplative life, of seeking excellence and virtue (arête), in ones life. However, he felt that it should not be a life of leisure, but one of action, of activity (ergon or function) in one's world. His position, clearly defined and supported in his Nicomachean Ethics, also indicated that in many other avenues of life beyond just philosophy, one can enjoy eudiamonia, translated literally as "good demons."
When I reached the age of 57, in 1995, I took early retirement because of some health concerns that might shorten my life. I had enjoyed decades as a student, with college degrees in Chemistry and Bible, an M.D. from Cornell University, pathology residency at the University of Vermont, and a stint as an Epidemic Intelligence Service Officer with the CDC in Atlanta. Perhaps due to some clerical error, at the tender age of 33, I was selected as Chief of Pathology at a medical center in Maine and co-founded Dahl-Chase Pathology Associates. I survived, even thrived and succeeded "in-the-trenches" of group medical practice for 25 years, as well as in consulting, lecturing and a side career in commercial and industrial real estate. In this process I gained insights and even some expertise in the world of leadership and the most important leadership skill, strategic thinking and planning.
As I entered retirement, I soon realized that I had carried with me the baggage of too much education, too many interests, too many opportunities, and too much money to simply live a peaceful and blissful contemplative life ala Plato. The greater problem was the process of selecting which specific projects would take my time, energy, emotions, and money (my favorite acronym TEEM). But then again I was an accomplished strategic planner, so this project should be very easy, both short and long term, since I may live longer than I expected.
I easily jettisoned the practice of medicine completely, by giving up my medical license. Yes, I had spent a great deal of time and money gaining those skills, but I had been consumed by it for 25 years. I had never been sued for malpractice, so why press my luck? It was easy to leave the practice, which carried my name, for I had designed the enterprise as a flattened hierarchy, maximizing synergy, the equal sharing with all the associates in the group. I did, however, maintain my contacts with key medical societies, where I networked and shared my wisdom and folly with younger physicians. It was time to give back, to be a mentor to repay my debt as a mentee. That has been most enjoyable and satisfying.
With the medical career gone, my commercial/industrial real estate career surfaced, as did my ownership in a small construction company and the Overhead Door Co. distributorship for half of Maine. As with the medical group, I shared ownership with the key managers, so again, I could easily work my way out of these ventures. It was euphemistically sort of a slow "garage sale" to get rid of real estate. The scholar had always been was given full access to workshops, mostly on writing, and courses on cassettes and CDs. After retirement I became an even more ardent workshop junkie and a steeped myself in philosophy, psychology, and religion, as a student and teacher. Having been banished to my parent's native land of Norway for the summer when I was 12-years old (to get me away from the "bad influence" of my friends), I have always had a Viking-style lust for travel, but without the classic raping and pillaging, of course. As a result, I merged my new world of scholarship and foreign travel, and added my life long pursuit of high-altitude mountaineering, sort of mountain madness with an element of class.
My life took an odd detour on October 23, 1999, when I just completed giving a workshop on Optimize Your Life! The One-page Strategic Planner in Portland, Maine and went up Mt. Washington, New Hampshire for a weekend to hike and enjoy the late fall foliage. Unfortunately, on Saturday morning there was a light rain and clouds hung oppressively in the valley and up over the mountains. My hiking buddies declined the joys of a day of hiking in the rain, so I went up to Tuckerman's Ravine solo and then up Lion Head Trail towards the Alpine Garden Trail on my way planned hike to the Auto Road and home.
As I climbed, the light rain turned into giant snowflakes. A veritable winter wonderland had replaced a dreary fall day. I was lured into a bright winter hike, and continued on for over an hour in spite of a marked increase in the wind. Then, "whiteout" conditions forced me to stop next to a huge cairn (a pile of rocks marking the trail) to wait out the storm. I climbed into my aluminized material bivvy sack and realized that I had my cell phone with me. I made a series of increasingly frustrating 911 calls, which left me wondering if my rescuers would come, let alone find my location.
As snow accumulated on my bivvy sack, I became concerned that my rescuers would not see me, so I slowly inched my up onto the surface of the snow and opened the end of my bivvy sack to evaluate my changing world. Unfortunately, gusts of wind filled my sack and, in spite of my efforts, tore it from my body. Now it me in a fall hiking outfit in an area known as "the home of the worst weather in the world" (April 12, 1934 wind speed: 231 miles per hour).
During that long night, with wind speeds up to 98 miles per hour, as I waited for rescue I had time to contemplate by past life. I made six promises that I would keep if I was rescued: to be insensitive criticism about my misadventure, to get rid of real estate, to make amends with my first wife and son, to get rid of excessive things, "stuff" in my life, to network with people from my past, and, above all, to simply my life. What would you be thinking, perhaps promising, as you faced imminent death?
Eventually, I gave up hope and simply waited for death. However, around midnight, my rescuers found me, took me off the mountain to a regional hospital for treatment of frost injuries, severe hypothermia, and rhabdomyolysis (the breakdown of muscle tissue due to voluntary and involuntary muscle flexing in an attempt to prevent/treat hypothermia).
Soon after my discharge from the hospital, Husson College in Maine invited me to share my experience and what I had learned the hard way. My presentation was entitled:
"Lessons for Living from a Mt. Washington Misadventure" offered three admonitions, pieces of advice from near death:
1) Be prepared to die! 2) Have a plan to live! 3) Do it now!
This presentation was recorded and broadcast on National Public Radio in New England, and I was invited to share my story in a range of speaking venues. About a year later, The Learning Channel coaxed me into a reenactment on Mt. Washington, and as a result of worldwide broadcasts, my new speaking career skyrocketed, featuring the Lessons keynote. With support from Mark Victor Hansen of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book series, I am writing the accompanying "misadventure book" and have completed Optimize Your Life! a book that merges personal and organizational strategic planning. This book has become an international best-seller with a worldwide Spanish translation by Random House, the world's largest publisher.
A simple, but deadly hike had lured me into the dynamic world of keynote speaking, as well as publishing, both well outside the confines of my historic world of medicine in which I had so much formal education and experienece. This world of deadlines, promises, and challenges became as hectic and demanding as the practice medicine. What had become of my peaceful contemplative retirement?
As I work on all my six promises, I focus on the toughest, to simplify my life, I remember my days in Benares (Varanasi), India, on the Ganges, when I saw hundreds of older Indian men in that phase of life, so well defined in Hinduism, of an ascetic, the sadhu or the sannyasin. There is a rejection of ordinary life and all that it means, in exchange for a search to attain moksha, the release from the cycle of samsara, re-incarnation. While a person may enter into this stage of life at any time, it is usually an older man that has raised his family, completed his business activities, and was fully retired. It may take an extreme form of the total rejection of household duties and responsibilities of the former stages of life. It may include the rejection of the religious beliefs, wherein ones even burns religious texts.
The sannyasins become wandering hermits, living life without any shelter or possessions. They eat when they can acquire food, but never enter into any work to acquire it; it must be given or found. They become holy men, seeking spiritual enlightenment and power, striving to achieve the true wisdom of the cosmos. Wow! That is easy to define, but a bit extreme. However, all my other five promises would be simply eliminated.
A less dramatic approach might be that described by psychologist Abraham Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs, which describes a person's motivation and resultant behavior as being determined by ones' needs. I could focus on the highest level, self-actualization and go beyond the basics of life and simply find a single "calling" and heed it.
But what single calling? I have decided that I would get rid of real estate in an orderly manner and complete succession planning for my business ventures. However, I would maintain a family life and continue my writing, speaking, and traveling on a more limited basis. High-altitude mountaineering might be over, after all, I am approaching 70 years of age, far beyond the ideal age of such risk-taking.
As the author of a monthly newsletter, I included in my January 2008 New Year's edition a list of the "10 Things I Want to Do Before I Die" and realized that I had drifted far from Plato's ideal life of contemplation and leisure. I think I will cruise through this year enjoying an Aristotelian life of active contemplation, being fully aware of Buddha's advice against striving, but in favor of living in the moment.
As I close this essay, I am forced to remember and share several paradoxes, ironies, even absurdities:
At the end of his Nicomacean Ethics (Book 10, Chapters 6 through 8) Aristotle seems to reverse himself and support Plato completely, noting that the contemplative philosophical life of leisure is the best.
The Buddha, when addressing one's life before death, gave us a poem that suggests the value, the appropriateness, of striving in one's life:
Every day a birdie on my shoulder asks: Is today the day? Are you doing all the things you should be doing? Are you being the person who you should be?
Plato stated that the purpose of philosophy is to prepare one for death.
**********************
About the Author
Bernhoff A. Dahl, M.D., author, keynote speaker, consultant, humorist and mountaineer, is the author of the International Bestseller Optimize Your Life! Dr. Dahl can be reached at DrBDahl@aol.com, www.TrionicsUSA.com, or www.Path-Quest.com
Adoption Poem: A Birth Mother's Hope for Solace and Closure by Febbe Wallace 0 votes vote Having to give your daughter or son up for adoption is a
Having to give your daughter or son up for adoption is a very painful experience. But you are not alone in your emotional turmoil. A lot of birth mothers who have given up their children feel that same pain. How do they cope with it? By sharing their experiences through an adoption poem.
Sharing your personal experience is one of the most therapeutic ways for you to begin the healing process and overcome feelings of guilt and regret. It is one of the most effective ways that women, because of extreme circumstances are forced to give their children up for adoption, can gain closure.
Writing an adoption poem, in particular, begins the healing process that grants them peace of mind. It washes away the guilt and reinforces the knowledge that wherever your child may be, he or she is safe and may be taken cared for by adoptive parents who can give him or her, a chance at a life you've hoped for them. By writing down your experiences and feelings in an adoption poem, you can begin to hope, to start over and be able to carry on with your own life.
There are a lot of things that you can write about in an adoption poem. Birth mothers, who have come to terms with their adoption, often write prayer-poems, asking God to watch over their children. Others write poems wondering who their children are and what they will become in the future. Some dream of meeting their children again, and when that time comes, hope they will understand the choice of adoption.
If you don't know how to start writing an adoption poem, begin by reading up on poems written by other women. If you are a member of a local adoption support group, ask for help. Chances are, they may have copies of adoption poems that may mirror your very own experience. You may also find poetry anthologies in you local library. Or, you may find adoption poems online. Do a web search and you may find an adoption poem that's close to your heart.
You can also find many helpful guides for writing your own adoption poem online. You can write an adoption poem about how you felt when you were having your child. You can also write about your worries, your fears, and your hopes of giving your child a good life. Write an adoption poem that says something about why you had to give him or her up.
Writing honestly about how letting go was the only way you could ever hope he or she may be well-cared for. Through your adoption poem, you might be able to share the hope that one day your child may understand your decision and not think less of you.
Start on your own path to self-healing by writing your own adoption poem. Read more about how other birth mothers have written their own poems and start from there. One adoption poem that is well-circulated over the Internet ends with a fervent prayer to a birth mother's son, that as he looks back and wonders why she gave her up, he would see and understand that it was love that made her let him go.
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Read an adoption poem online. Discover tips on how to deal with the loss in a kid adoption experience.
Sharing your personal experience is one of the most therapeutic ways for you to begin the healing process and overcome feelings of guilt and regret. It is one of the most effective ways that women, because of extreme circumstances are forced to give their children up for adoption, can gain closure.
Writing an adoption poem, in particular, begins the healing process that grants them peace of mind. It washes away the guilt and reinforces the knowledge that wherever your child may be, he or she is safe and may be taken cared for by adoptive parents who can give him or her, a chance at a life you've hoped for them. By writing down your experiences and feelings in an adoption poem, you can begin to hope, to start over and be able to carry on with your own life.
There are a lot of things that you can write about in an adoption poem. Birth mothers, who have come to terms with their adoption, often write prayer-poems, asking God to watch over their children. Others write poems wondering who their children are and what they will become in the future. Some dream of meeting their children again, and when that time comes, hope they will understand the choice of adoption.
If you don't know how to start writing an adoption poem, begin by reading up on poems written by other women. If you are a member of a local adoption support group, ask for help. Chances are, they may have copies of adoption poems that may mirror your very own experience. You may also find poetry anthologies in you local library. Or, you may find adoption poems online. Do a web search and you may find an adoption poem that's close to your heart.
You can also find many helpful guides for writing your own adoption poem online. You can write an adoption poem about how you felt when you were having your child. You can also write about your worries, your fears, and your hopes of giving your child a good life. Write an adoption poem that says something about why you had to give him or her up.
Writing honestly about how letting go was the only way you could ever hope he or she may be well-cared for. Through your adoption poem, you might be able to share the hope that one day your child may understand your decision and not think less of you.
Start on your own path to self-healing by writing your own adoption poem. Read more about how other birth mothers have written their own poems and start from there. One adoption poem that is well-circulated over the Internet ends with a fervent prayer to a birth mother's son, that as he looks back and wonders why she gave her up, he would see and understand that it was love that made her let him go.
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Read an adoption poem online. Discover tips on how to deal with the loss in a kid adoption experience.
Creative Writing and Grammar Rules by Ayan Gupta 0 votes vote The grammatical rules specified over here, pertain to all the variety of creative wr
The grammatical rules specified over here, pertain to all the variety of creative writing, giving the broad-spectrum suggestions that are often accurate. It is a format for categorizing and analyzing the rudiments of the language.
1. Creative writers should make use of the language creatively. They must abide by the rules of language, its usage and punctuation.
2. Formulate your language concrete, not abstract; specific, not general.
3. Use adjectives and adverbs with moderation.
4. If you have sited a tale or verse using archaic English, do it grammatically and appropriately.
5. Lack of action is one of the errors to be existed. The story depends excessively on description or on dialogue.
6. For the good cause, nearly all narratives and work of fictions are done in past tense which sounds natural while in case of Present tense story, there is nothing unusual to talk about.
7. Writers, who strive hard to generate an effect, opt for artificial language while the writers who do not toil enough create flat language with nothing lyrical about it.
8. When giving the weak expressions, keep the ending lines at bay. The line is one of the essential components by means of which a poet works. There should be suitable ground for line length and line breaks, even though you are not making use of the measuring device or poem. Try ending some lines on verbs where the reader's breath would by and large get paused.
9. Steer clear of two common imperfections:
* The indistinguishable sequence of unrelated phrases
* The dull filament of one-line sentences.
Syntax is a significant reserve for a poet, like figure of speech, imagery or satire. Show a discrepancy in your sentence structure by making use of run-on lines and end-stopped lines. A fine integrated sentence that envelops numerous lines can be extremely effectual if cautiously strengthening to its conclusion.
10. Facilitate your reader with clear-cut punctuation. All the rules of punctuation that pertain to writing style are relevant to poems too. Wherever there is a notation of syntax and implication of meaning, there is a set out of commas, periods and other punctuation marks.
11. PR: Rhyme
* Start making use of the superlative rhyme words which add to meaning and start evading hackneyed rhymes which donates nothing apart from rhyme such as-- you-do-true, see-me-be, love-above, day-say.
* Don’t let the rhyme and meter make you do discomfited phraseology.
* In order to have the sense of hearing clearly, last but one (second to last) syllable must be at ease.
* The vowel and any concluding consonants must be alike in order to have an accurate rhyme.
* Since prepositions, conjunctions and articles rarely rhyme well, so they do not usually take the delivery of stress. This is to say that when there is an employment of weak word, shun the use of rhymes.
* You are supposed to evade rhyming cried-decide and freed-need next to each other, if you are writing a quatrain rhymed abab, or even couplets, as they are too alike to hum like separate rhymes.
* PM: Meter
* When analyzing, do not stuff the line with words. Each syllable should convey their meaning.
* Don’t count on one-syllable words in excess for the fact that they will soon become dull. Hence, you should make an attempt of polysyllabic and monosyllabic words.
* Putting aside the main clause, commence with the conjunctions like although and when or prepositions like in, on, with, which will facilitate to run on from one line to the next and make possible for us to avoid writing in a chain of one-line sentences and clauses.
* PF: Formulate your poem in such a way that it appears good on the piece of paper. Take the version 5: e. Center the heading and not the complete poem. f. Place a broad left edge for the rest of the sonnet and not for the title. g. Prefer a line of standard length and not the shortest or the longest line, center it, observe where its left margin is, and set a tab stop or margin there. h. If the poem is in iambic pentameter and you are using 12-point type, a three-inch margin, than two inches from the one-inch margin is usually right.
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1. Creative writers should make use of the language creatively. They must abide by the rules of language, its usage and punctuation.
2. Formulate your language concrete, not abstract; specific, not general.
3. Use adjectives and adverbs with moderation.
4. If you have sited a tale or verse using archaic English, do it grammatically and appropriately.
5. Lack of action is one of the errors to be existed. The story depends excessively on description or on dialogue.
6. For the good cause, nearly all narratives and work of fictions are done in past tense which sounds natural while in case of Present tense story, there is nothing unusual to talk about.
7. Writers, who strive hard to generate an effect, opt for artificial language while the writers who do not toil enough create flat language with nothing lyrical about it.
8. When giving the weak expressions, keep the ending lines at bay. The line is one of the essential components by means of which a poet works. There should be suitable ground for line length and line breaks, even though you are not making use of the measuring device or poem. Try ending some lines on verbs where the reader's breath would by and large get paused.
9. Steer clear of two common imperfections:
* The indistinguishable sequence of unrelated phrases
* The dull filament of one-line sentences.
Syntax is a significant reserve for a poet, like figure of speech, imagery or satire. Show a discrepancy in your sentence structure by making use of run-on lines and end-stopped lines. A fine integrated sentence that envelops numerous lines can be extremely effectual if cautiously strengthening to its conclusion.
10. Facilitate your reader with clear-cut punctuation. All the rules of punctuation that pertain to writing style are relevant to poems too. Wherever there is a notation of syntax and implication of meaning, there is a set out of commas, periods and other punctuation marks.
11. PR: Rhyme
* Start making use of the superlative rhyme words which add to meaning and start evading hackneyed rhymes which donates nothing apart from rhyme such as-- you-do-true, see-me-be, love-above, day-say.
* Don’t let the rhyme and meter make you do discomfited phraseology.
* In order to have the sense of hearing clearly, last but one (second to last) syllable must be at ease.
* The vowel and any concluding consonants must be alike in order to have an accurate rhyme.
* Since prepositions, conjunctions and articles rarely rhyme well, so they do not usually take the delivery of stress. This is to say that when there is an employment of weak word, shun the use of rhymes.
* You are supposed to evade rhyming cried-decide and freed-need next to each other, if you are writing a quatrain rhymed abab, or even couplets, as they are too alike to hum like separate rhymes.
* PM: Meter
* When analyzing, do not stuff the line with words. Each syllable should convey their meaning.
* Don’t count on one-syllable words in excess for the fact that they will soon become dull. Hence, you should make an attempt of polysyllabic and monosyllabic words.
* Putting aside the main clause, commence with the conjunctions like although and when or prepositions like in, on, with, which will facilitate to run on from one line to the next and make possible for us to avoid writing in a chain of one-line sentences and clauses.
* PF: Formulate your poem in such a way that it appears good on the piece of paper. Take the version 5: e. Center the heading and not the complete poem. f. Place a broad left edge for the rest of the sonnet and not for the title. g. Prefer a line of standard length and not the shortest or the longest line, center it, observe where its left margin is, and set a tab stop or margin there. h. If the poem is in iambic pentameter and you are using 12-point type, a three-inch margin, than two inches from the one-inch margin is usually right.
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Blogging Incognito by sas_submitemail 0 votes vote Will you believe that blogs are just powerful enough to do different things? For instance, if y
Will you believe that blogs are just powerful enough to do different things? For instance, if you want the world to know that you have a beautiful little baby girl, all you need to do is to post a blog on your site or on a blogging community saying such proclamation. If you are not yet contented, you can display the picture of your baby girl by means of photo blogging. Simply post her picture and the whole world will know.
It is good if that will be the case. However the power of blogging is now beginning to be used for black propaganda. In what sense? Take the following instances: There are individuals who are using blogs to exercise their political rights by revealing some horrible expose about certain federal officials that generates personal revenues from a government-funded infrastructure project.
The point here is anyone can actually make a blog without any censorship that will prevent him to post what he wants to post. Much worse, the identity of the blogger is at great risk. What if that federal official founds out your real identity and will make way to eliminate you out of his way? Not only your identity is at stake, but also your life as well.
But the above-mentioned concerns should not prevent you from writing blogs especially if you have good intentions in doing so. Instead, you should be inspired to keep your blog private or accessible only on particular trusted individuals.
This article will show the simplest precaution you can take on how to maintain your personal privacy so that you can still express yourself without facing worse or even fatal consequences. If followed correctly, these precautions can save you from the consequences and from embarrassment or just from plain weirdness in front of your friends and co-workers.
Blog Anonymously
The safest way to express yourself especially when your blog contains uncensored or weird items is to blog anonymously. It is just like writing a poem and taking the "Anonymous" as your author's name. However, being anonymous in a blog is not just as easy as you might think.
For instance, you want to make a blog that tackles your terrible working environment in your company without risking your boss or co-workers discovering that you are eventually writing about them. Here are some of the techniques and technologies you can use to make it hard for anyone to trace your uncensored blog back to you.
Avoid Mentioning Exact Details about your Blog's Subject
If you will be creating a blog about your work, never give exact details that will pinpoint directly to your workplace. Details such as where your company is located, how many employees are there, and the specific work it offers should not be revealed. Be generalize in everything that you will place in your blog.
Use Pseudonym to Hide your Identity
Obviously, you need a pseudonym to hide your real identity. However, you need to use pseudonyms that are not related to any information about yourself. For instance, do not use pseudonyms that contain the jumbled letters of your name or jumbled numbers of your birthday. One small personal detail can give your identity away.
Use Anonymizing Technologies
If you are still uncertain of the first two techniques, there are several technical solutions you can use to keep your identity anonymous.
* Invisiblog- a web service that offers anonymous blog hosting for free. You can create blogs without giving out your real name. Even service administrators do not have access to your name as well.
* Tor- it is an anonymous network that routes your Internet traffic through a so-called an overlay network that hides your Internet provider address. It makes hard for anyone to follow the path your data takes.
* Anonymizer- it works as the same as Tor, only that it hides your IP address from the services hosting your blog.
By just following the techniques and technologies suggested in this article, you can now blog without fearing that your real identity will be revealed.
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It is good if that will be the case. However the power of blogging is now beginning to be used for black propaganda. In what sense? Take the following instances: There are individuals who are using blogs to exercise their political rights by revealing some horrible expose about certain federal officials that generates personal revenues from a government-funded infrastructure project.
The point here is anyone can actually make a blog without any censorship that will prevent him to post what he wants to post. Much worse, the identity of the blogger is at great risk. What if that federal official founds out your real identity and will make way to eliminate you out of his way? Not only your identity is at stake, but also your life as well.
But the above-mentioned concerns should not prevent you from writing blogs especially if you have good intentions in doing so. Instead, you should be inspired to keep your blog private or accessible only on particular trusted individuals.
This article will show the simplest precaution you can take on how to maintain your personal privacy so that you can still express yourself without facing worse or even fatal consequences. If followed correctly, these precautions can save you from the consequences and from embarrassment or just from plain weirdness in front of your friends and co-workers.
Blog Anonymously
The safest way to express yourself especially when your blog contains uncensored or weird items is to blog anonymously. It is just like writing a poem and taking the "Anonymous" as your author's name. However, being anonymous in a blog is not just as easy as you might think.
For instance, you want to make a blog that tackles your terrible working environment in your company without risking your boss or co-workers discovering that you are eventually writing about them. Here are some of the techniques and technologies you can use to make it hard for anyone to trace your uncensored blog back to you.
Avoid Mentioning Exact Details about your Blog's Subject
If you will be creating a blog about your work, never give exact details that will pinpoint directly to your workplace. Details such as where your company is located, how many employees are there, and the specific work it offers should not be revealed. Be generalize in everything that you will place in your blog.
Use Pseudonym to Hide your Identity
Obviously, you need a pseudonym to hide your real identity. However, you need to use pseudonyms that are not related to any information about yourself. For instance, do not use pseudonyms that contain the jumbled letters of your name or jumbled numbers of your birthday. One small personal detail can give your identity away.
Use Anonymizing Technologies
If you are still uncertain of the first two techniques, there are several technical solutions you can use to keep your identity anonymous.
* Invisiblog- a web service that offers anonymous blog hosting for free. You can create blogs without giving out your real name. Even service administrators do not have access to your name as well.
* Tor- it is an anonymous network that routes your Internet traffic through a so-called an overlay network that hides your Internet provider address. It makes hard for anyone to follow the path your data takes.
* Anonymizer- it works as the same as Tor, only that it hides your IP address from the services hosting your blog.
By just following the techniques and technologies suggested in this article, you can now blog without fearing that your real identity will be revealed.
About the Author
Visit discount-ebooks-store.com for Blogging techniques
Submitted by: Super Article Submitter
13 Magical Things to do in a Relationship by Gina Bray 0 votes vote When you know that you have found the perfect woman for you, make sure that sh
When you know that you have found the perfect woman for you, make sure that she feels the same about you. You are crazy about her and want to make her feel happy with you, that's why you are ready to make all the sacrifices to impress her, to show her how much you care about her, or to not permit that routine to come into your relationship.
With all this sacrifices to show her your feelings, to keep your relationship as cool as it was at the beginning, you feel that you have to make something more interesting. That's why you should induce "magic "into your relationship even if you are hopeless romantic or not. To add more intimacy, love, understanding and compassion in any relationship is always welcome.
So, here are some magical things to do in order to impress your partner in a good way and increase your relationship:
1. Surprise her by taking her lunch and coffee at bed right after she woke up; if you didn't do this before she will definitely be impressed; also cooking a pizza for her and cut it in a heart shape it is very romantic; a woman will always find interesting a man who is able to cook for her, no matter what kind of food it is; even if it wouldn't be too tasty, she will appreciate that you have tried
2. Set up a picnic in the park; even it is an usually day, prepare all you need for a picnic, go get your girlfriend and go for a walk; don't tell her from the beginning what you plan to, let it be a surprise; a ' going out' at a picnic in the fresh air is always welcome and relaxing
3. Send her flowers anytime and anywhere, that is unexpected; women love flowers, so sending her flowers without any reason will demonstrate her that you really care about and make her feel loved and special; the most probably that she will answer you with the same love you show her
4. Fill her apartment with balloons or something she likes, maybe it's a crazy idea, but it usually works to impress girls; it will be seen as a funny thing by your partner and remember that some fun is necessary in any relationship
5. If you are good at writing, write her a poem, or create a book for her with a special dedication; this will definitely work if she love poems; don't begin to write a poem only if you know that you are good at it, other way you will screw up
6. Reading romantic poetry in the middle of the living room on a blanket in soft candlelight, it is a very good way to offer your partner a wonderful evening; women are often more romantic than men, that's why they like to be surprised by men with romantic ideas
7. Massages are always magic when done right; buying different flavored edible bars to experiment with each other can be more surprising; but if you are not good at making massage, go to a spa together and get a couples massage together
8. Go for a romantic meal; make reservations at a beautiful restaurant and create a romantic atmosphere with candles, roses and slow music; offer her a night to never forget
9. Going for a walk at night and looking at the stars and moon is almost such romantic as the restaurant, and is cheapest; so it is not necessary to have a lot of money to offer your partner a lovely evening; it can be very interesting
10. If you can afford it, take her in holiday in an exotic place, like a beautiful island, only you two alone, with sunshine and plenty of water, where you will spend a wonderful time together, and will not be disturb by friends, family, relatives
11. But, if you can't afford to go in a exotic place, to the sea, there's no problem; bubble baths together are always magic times;
12. Surprise visits; surprise her with your visits when she is not expecting at all; while you are able to surprise her in a good way, she will not lose interest in you
13. Don't be afraid to talk sweet nothings into her ear; make the woman feel good by saying sweet and romantic things to her at any given time; as I said, women love romance.
Written by
Ovi Doger
http://ourdatenight4woman.com/
http://ourdatenight.com/category/couples-romance/
http://ourdatenight.com/
About the Author
Gina Grey, the owner of Our Date Night created the only program EVERY couple should be a member of.
Our Date Night, was created for couples. It is tailored for couples who are dating, engaged, married and in long time commitment relationships. The Membership program within our date night is jam-packed with creative, customized, mind-blowing couples activities.
With all this sacrifices to show her your feelings, to keep your relationship as cool as it was at the beginning, you feel that you have to make something more interesting. That's why you should induce "magic "into your relationship even if you are hopeless romantic or not. To add more intimacy, love, understanding and compassion in any relationship is always welcome.
So, here are some magical things to do in order to impress your partner in a good way and increase your relationship:
1. Surprise her by taking her lunch and coffee at bed right after she woke up; if you didn't do this before she will definitely be impressed; also cooking a pizza for her and cut it in a heart shape it is very romantic; a woman will always find interesting a man who is able to cook for her, no matter what kind of food it is; even if it wouldn't be too tasty, she will appreciate that you have tried
2. Set up a picnic in the park; even it is an usually day, prepare all you need for a picnic, go get your girlfriend and go for a walk; don't tell her from the beginning what you plan to, let it be a surprise; a ' going out' at a picnic in the fresh air is always welcome and relaxing
3. Send her flowers anytime and anywhere, that is unexpected; women love flowers, so sending her flowers without any reason will demonstrate her that you really care about and make her feel loved and special; the most probably that she will answer you with the same love you show her
4. Fill her apartment with balloons or something she likes, maybe it's a crazy idea, but it usually works to impress girls; it will be seen as a funny thing by your partner and remember that some fun is necessary in any relationship
5. If you are good at writing, write her a poem, or create a book for her with a special dedication; this will definitely work if she love poems; don't begin to write a poem only if you know that you are good at it, other way you will screw up
6. Reading romantic poetry in the middle of the living room on a blanket in soft candlelight, it is a very good way to offer your partner a wonderful evening; women are often more romantic than men, that's why they like to be surprised by men with romantic ideas
7. Massages are always magic when done right; buying different flavored edible bars to experiment with each other can be more surprising; but if you are not good at making massage, go to a spa together and get a couples massage together
8. Go for a romantic meal; make reservations at a beautiful restaurant and create a romantic atmosphere with candles, roses and slow music; offer her a night to never forget
9. Going for a walk at night and looking at the stars and moon is almost such romantic as the restaurant, and is cheapest; so it is not necessary to have a lot of money to offer your partner a lovely evening; it can be very interesting
10. If you can afford it, take her in holiday in an exotic place, like a beautiful island, only you two alone, with sunshine and plenty of water, where you will spend a wonderful time together, and will not be disturb by friends, family, relatives
11. But, if you can't afford to go in a exotic place, to the sea, there's no problem; bubble baths together are always magic times;
12. Surprise visits; surprise her with your visits when she is not expecting at all; while you are able to surprise her in a good way, she will not lose interest in you
13. Don't be afraid to talk sweet nothings into her ear; make the woman feel good by saying sweet and romantic things to her at any given time; as I said, women love romance.
Written by
Ovi Doger
http://ourdatenight4woman.com/
http://ourdatenight.com/category/couples-romance/
http://ourdatenight.com/
About the Author
Gina Grey, the owner of Our Date Night created the only program EVERY couple should be a member of.
Our Date Night, was created for couples. It is tailored for couples who are dating, engaged, married and in long time commitment relationships. The Membership program within our date night is jam-packed with creative, customized, mind-blowing couples activities.
Surviving A Long Distance Relationship: 7 Powerful Secrets To Rekindle the Love and Keep It Alive by Cucan Pemo 0 votes vote All relationships tak
All relationships take work. But a long-distance relationship is even more difficult and it can sometimes seem impossible to keep love alive when separated. But love can be a powerful motivator and, if you're dedicated enough, you can make a long-distance relationship work.
If your man is overseas, you may be concerned that his need for affection may lead him astray ' but with the right attitude and a little creativity, your long-distance relationship can be rewarding, exciting and romantic. You just have to work a little harder to keep the flame burning while you're apart.
1) Write love letters.
One of the best things about long-distance relationship is receiving ' and sending ' love letters and romantic poetry. Even relationships where a couple live in the same house can benefit from expressing feelings on paper, and it's even more special when there are miles between you.
So take advantage of the distance and craft a love poem for him that's as romantic as anything out of a Jane Austen novel. Handwrite a two-page letter, send a flirty text message or type out a romantic e-mail.
You don't have to embarrass yourself with gooey sentimentality, but the more detailed your love notes, the better. As long as you're sincere, you really can't go wrong.
2) Live in the present.
Instead of emphasizing the distance between the two of you, focus on the love you share every day, and how grateful you have each other to rely upon.
It's natural to plan for the future, but if you're always talking about how terrific it will be the next time you're together, you're not enjoying the present. Don't live for "someday" ' appreciate each other right now, even with the distance, and don't pin all your happiness on some far-off moment down the road.
3) Build trust.
If you show that you trust your partner, they will return the favor. Even couples who live together fear infidelity, so it can especially tough to trust that your partner overseas is being faithful.
But if both of you agreed to be true to each other while in separate cities, states or countries, or continents, then you should trust that neither of you will risk your love too easily.
So if you let him know you're confident in your relationship ' and reinforce that you're happy to wait for your partner ' the two of you will have more of a chance of succeeding.
4) Be careful with your words and tone of voice.
Because you aren't there to read his body language and facial expressions and feel his hug ' and vice versa ' pay extra attention to way you communicate.
If something you read strikes you the wrong way, ask him to clarify. Make sure that your own writing is clear. If you're having a tough day and the stress is creeping into your voice while you're on the phone, make sure to tell him why you're tense and that it's not because of him. It's easy to miscommunicate when you're not face-to-face, so head off any misunderstandings before they start.
5) Don't idealize your partner.
Lovers tend to idealize each other in long-distance relationships, building them up to be people they aren't.
It's natural to think highly of your partner, but don't have unrealistic expectations of how perfect your life will be when you're finally together again. You'll only be setting yourself up for a massive disappointment if you do.
6) Involve him in your everyday life.
It's important for him to feel connected to you. Tell him about even the most mundane details about your day, keep him up to date about your life.
Share gossip about the neighbors, tell him about a movie you saw, talk about the new software you're installing on the computer. Some long-distance couples will set their VCRs to record a movie or TV show so they can watch it together, chatting on Instant Messenger or on the phone while watching at the same time.
Having these special "dates" will keep the two of you close, just as sharing the most boring details of your life will keep you conncted as a couple.
7) Close the distance every now and then.
Even if you feel your long-distance relationship is going along just swimmingly, there's nothing like a planned or totally spontaneous get-together to spice things up.
Save up for a plane ticket and surprise your lover with a weekend visit. Sometimes you just need a little reminder of the physical connection you two have, not just the emotional one.
Your long-distance relationship can work ' even thrive ' with a little effort and creativity. Even if your partner is starting to feel a little distant, you can rekindle the love with a few romantic gestures and a lot of compassion.
About the Author
If you like to learn how to save a Marriage or Relationship, get my PROVEN Strategies and FREE Video Tutorials to get an Ex back (Value $67!) TODAY at http://www.RetrieveALover.com ! Learn how to attract men, jolts them, wakes them and open his eyes to see the loving, caring, best you at http://www.AttractATrueLoveSecrets.com . Get the FREE Video Tutorial to make your man falls in love with you TODAY!
If your man is overseas, you may be concerned that his need for affection may lead him astray ' but with the right attitude and a little creativity, your long-distance relationship can be rewarding, exciting and romantic. You just have to work a little harder to keep the flame burning while you're apart.
1) Write love letters.
One of the best things about long-distance relationship is receiving ' and sending ' love letters and romantic poetry. Even relationships where a couple live in the same house can benefit from expressing feelings on paper, and it's even more special when there are miles between you.
So take advantage of the distance and craft a love poem for him that's as romantic as anything out of a Jane Austen novel. Handwrite a two-page letter, send a flirty text message or type out a romantic e-mail.
You don't have to embarrass yourself with gooey sentimentality, but the more detailed your love notes, the better. As long as you're sincere, you really can't go wrong.
2) Live in the present.
Instead of emphasizing the distance between the two of you, focus on the love you share every day, and how grateful you have each other to rely upon.
It's natural to plan for the future, but if you're always talking about how terrific it will be the next time you're together, you're not enjoying the present. Don't live for "someday" ' appreciate each other right now, even with the distance, and don't pin all your happiness on some far-off moment down the road.
3) Build trust.
If you show that you trust your partner, they will return the favor. Even couples who live together fear infidelity, so it can especially tough to trust that your partner overseas is being faithful.
But if both of you agreed to be true to each other while in separate cities, states or countries, or continents, then you should trust that neither of you will risk your love too easily.
So if you let him know you're confident in your relationship ' and reinforce that you're happy to wait for your partner ' the two of you will have more of a chance of succeeding.
4) Be careful with your words and tone of voice.
Because you aren't there to read his body language and facial expressions and feel his hug ' and vice versa ' pay extra attention to way you communicate.
If something you read strikes you the wrong way, ask him to clarify. Make sure that your own writing is clear. If you're having a tough day and the stress is creeping into your voice while you're on the phone, make sure to tell him why you're tense and that it's not because of him. It's easy to miscommunicate when you're not face-to-face, so head off any misunderstandings before they start.
5) Don't idealize your partner.
Lovers tend to idealize each other in long-distance relationships, building them up to be people they aren't.
It's natural to think highly of your partner, but don't have unrealistic expectations of how perfect your life will be when you're finally together again. You'll only be setting yourself up for a massive disappointment if you do.
6) Involve him in your everyday life.
It's important for him to feel connected to you. Tell him about even the most mundane details about your day, keep him up to date about your life.
Share gossip about the neighbors, tell him about a movie you saw, talk about the new software you're installing on the computer. Some long-distance couples will set their VCRs to record a movie or TV show so they can watch it together, chatting on Instant Messenger or on the phone while watching at the same time.
Having these special "dates" will keep the two of you close, just as sharing the most boring details of your life will keep you conncted as a couple.
7) Close the distance every now and then.
Even if you feel your long-distance relationship is going along just swimmingly, there's nothing like a planned or totally spontaneous get-together to spice things up.
Save up for a plane ticket and surprise your lover with a weekend visit. Sometimes you just need a little reminder of the physical connection you two have, not just the emotional one.
Your long-distance relationship can work ' even thrive ' with a little effort and creativity. Even if your partner is starting to feel a little distant, you can rekindle the love with a few romantic gestures and a lot of compassion.
About the Author
If you like to learn how to save a Marriage or Relationship, get my PROVEN Strategies and FREE Video Tutorials to get an Ex back (Value $67!) TODAY at http://www.RetrieveALover.com ! Learn how to attract men, jolts them, wakes them and open his eyes to see the loving, caring, best you at http://www.AttractATrueLoveSecrets.com . Get the FREE Video Tutorial to make your man falls in love with you TODAY!
Universal Laws of Energy and Change - Part 2 by Jan Engels Smith 0 votes vote Whatever You Add Energy To Multiplies This is a literal statement.
This is a literal statement. It is both a physical law as well as a universal law, which basically explains how we create. Creator has given you free will, or sacred choice. This means that you freely choose what you think, say, or write, and how you behave in any given situation. You create your existence—literally—by your own thoughts, words, and actions. You think thousands of thoughts per second, all of them energy with the potential to create an actual physical manifestation. Whatever gets the most energy—wins.
So what are you thinking all day? Where are you multiplying energy? These are hard questions. Are you dwelling in the past, giving wrong deeds or past hurts the energy to constantly recreate their pain? Are you angry or self-loathing, causing unfortunate situations to keep recurring in your life? Are you thinking about your victimization and then finding yourself a victim once again?
The Spanish philosopher, Jose Ortega y Gasset wrote, "Life is a series of collisions with the future; it is not a sum of what we have been but what we yearn to be." It is important to understand our past, but not to dwell on it. We create ourselves by our intentions and the actions following those intentions. We create our future. We make a choice to see positive possibilities or to dwell in the negative.
A Chinese poem states: If the water of the Tsanglang is clear, I will wash the ribbon of my hat. If it is dirty, I will wash my feet in it.
If you choose to see positive results, you will begin the process of creating a positive future. You will literally create your life situations. The reverse is also true. If you dwell on the negative about a situation and are worrying about it, talking about it negatively, and being the victim of it, you will add negative energy to it. Energy is the fuel for creation, but there is a human choice as to where it will be applied.
Remember: Whatever You Add Energy To Multiplies Where are you placing the most energy? Which side is multiplying? Think of this energy as a cloud - a physical mist of energy that is surrounding you. Every thought counts. You are feeding one side or the other.
Thought Followed By Word and Action Equals Form
This law is an extension of the previous law—whatever you add energy to multiplies. However, this law is about the amount of energy present in a given situation. There is a significant variation in energy from one circumstance to another. Thoughts function initially at a low frequency. When we attach spoken or written words to thoughts, we increase their energy frequency. Speaking and writing add additional form to thoughts. What may have been a random thought assumes more explicit form. In other words, intention is more clearly defined and given form. You may have noticed that when you explain something to others, it becomes much clearer to yourself. This is because your random thoughts become organized and take the form of statement. This takes energy, which is then stored in the words. Words, as speech and script, are powerful. They become like contracts with the universe, and should be taken seriously.
Taking action or putting energy into motion is the follow through for what is thought or said. Intention manifests into action and creates. In other words, thought followed by words and action equal form. This equation can be applied to something as minor as baking a cake or to a major endeavor such as building a house. Everything ever invented began with a thought, which was then put into words, and then translated into action, which resulted in the invention materializing, or taking form. After the thought, words, and action followed, something materialized.
The process of enlightenment, or becoming spiritually connected, follows the same pattern. You have the thought that becoming more aware is what you would like for yourself. You speak of this to others, and you take action by reading books, listening to teachers, journeying to spirit, and so forth. The end result is a changed you—a new form.
About the Author
Jan Engels-Smith promotes self-healing, empowerment, better communities, a healthy world and conducts workshops in shamanism & journeying. Her book, Becoming Yourself is at http://www.LightSong.net . Jan's a Licensed Counselor. She's done over 2,000 soul retrievals. She is the founder of LightSong School of Shamanic Studies, a Chemical Dependency Specialist, and Marriage Therapist. She is a water-pourer for sweat lodge, a minister, a Reiki Master.
So what are you thinking all day? Where are you multiplying energy? These are hard questions. Are you dwelling in the past, giving wrong deeds or past hurts the energy to constantly recreate their pain? Are you angry or self-loathing, causing unfortunate situations to keep recurring in your life? Are you thinking about your victimization and then finding yourself a victim once again?
The Spanish philosopher, Jose Ortega y Gasset wrote, "Life is a series of collisions with the future; it is not a sum of what we have been but what we yearn to be." It is important to understand our past, but not to dwell on it. We create ourselves by our intentions and the actions following those intentions. We create our future. We make a choice to see positive possibilities or to dwell in the negative.
A Chinese poem states: If the water of the Tsanglang is clear, I will wash the ribbon of my hat. If it is dirty, I will wash my feet in it.
If you choose to see positive results, you will begin the process of creating a positive future. You will literally create your life situations. The reverse is also true. If you dwell on the negative about a situation and are worrying about it, talking about it negatively, and being the victim of it, you will add negative energy to it. Energy is the fuel for creation, but there is a human choice as to where it will be applied.
Remember: Whatever You Add Energy To Multiplies Where are you placing the most energy? Which side is multiplying? Think of this energy as a cloud - a physical mist of energy that is surrounding you. Every thought counts. You are feeding one side or the other.
Thought Followed By Word and Action Equals Form
This law is an extension of the previous law—whatever you add energy to multiplies. However, this law is about the amount of energy present in a given situation. There is a significant variation in energy from one circumstance to another. Thoughts function initially at a low frequency. When we attach spoken or written words to thoughts, we increase their energy frequency. Speaking and writing add additional form to thoughts. What may have been a random thought assumes more explicit form. In other words, intention is more clearly defined and given form. You may have noticed that when you explain something to others, it becomes much clearer to yourself. This is because your random thoughts become organized and take the form of statement. This takes energy, which is then stored in the words. Words, as speech and script, are powerful. They become like contracts with the universe, and should be taken seriously.
Taking action or putting energy into motion is the follow through for what is thought or said. Intention manifests into action and creates. In other words, thought followed by words and action equal form. This equation can be applied to something as minor as baking a cake or to a major endeavor such as building a house. Everything ever invented began with a thought, which was then put into words, and then translated into action, which resulted in the invention materializing, or taking form. After the thought, words, and action followed, something materialized.
The process of enlightenment, or becoming spiritually connected, follows the same pattern. You have the thought that becoming more aware is what you would like for yourself. You speak of this to others, and you take action by reading books, listening to teachers, journeying to spirit, and so forth. The end result is a changed you—a new form.
About the Author
Jan Engels-Smith promotes self-healing, empowerment, better communities, a healthy world and conducts workshops in shamanism & journeying. Her book, Becoming Yourself is at http://www.LightSong.net . Jan's a Licensed Counselor. She's done over 2,000 soul retrievals. She is the founder of LightSong School of Shamanic Studies, a Chemical Dependency Specialist, and Marriage Therapist. She is a water-pourer for sweat lodge, a minister, a Reiki Master.
Pet death: helping your child cope with grief by Jenny Jackson 0 votes vote For many children the death of their pet will be their first experienc
For many children the death of their pet will be their first experience of death or loss. Children today often have a particularly significant relationship with their pets as families are smaller and both parents may work outside the home, leaving children to spend more time alone, with the family pet taking the role of daily companion.
For many children, a pet can be a source of comfort and a supportive, uncritical friend, always available to listen. Pets often give children a valuable sense of self-worth because they will not judge or make children feel inadequate. Children frequently describe their pets as a best friend or sibling.
Reactions to grief How a child responds to losing a pet really depends on the intensity of their bond, as well as the child's maturity and circumstances surrounding the loss. Children tend to show grief in spurts and for longer periods than adults. Children often show their grief in less direct ways than adults. One day they will seem fine and the next day they may show that they are feeling pain. Children may try to get closeness, care, information, reassurance and support from adults.
Even the most sensitive adult may feel uncomfortable discussing death, loss and grief with children. Parents often want to protect children from pain by shielding them from painful experiences, particularly if the pet will be euthanized. Children are often excluded from the decision to spare them the guilt associated with such a difficult choice.
What you can do Ensure that your child can express their feelings safely without judgment. Depending on your child's age and maturity, feelings can be expressed through play, water play, writing a letter, a story, a poem, painting or drawing.
Give clear and honest information to your child in a way that they can understand. Children need to know what is happening even if they don't ask.
Allow your child time to talk, ask questions and share their worries with a caring adult. They might be very confused and need to ask lots of questions. If you can't talk about it, find another adult who is close to your child who can. If children can't talk to you about the loss, they might feel that it is not safe to talk about it at all and so continue to have muddled and scary feelings. You may have to answer the same question over and over as your child learns to understand what has happened.
If the child is acting angrily or withdrawing, try to make times to talk, without pushing for answers. If it continues, talk to a health professional.
Be honest. If you don't tell them what has happened, you may prevent them from dealing with the loss and grieving. This can cause problems when they have other losses in their lives. Consider letting your child's teacher or childcare worker know if you think they will be sensitive. Teachers and friends at school can help to support your child.
Although you may feel uncomfortable, don't be afraid to share your sadness. It may help your child to see that their own feelings are normal. Learning to cope with the death of a pet may make it easier to deal with other losses, which are a natural part of life.
Allow times for extra closeness and comfort.
Shortly after the loss, the pain may outweigh the pleasurable memories of having a pet. Once the pain has diminished, you and your child may feel ready to become attached to a new pet. Your child may feel guilty about replacing the pet that has gone, perhaps worrying that they might forget about that pet. Grief is essentially about wanting to maintain a connection with someone who has died. There are many healthy ways to maintain this connection. Your child may feel better if they keep the pet's collar or put a framed photo on display.
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For many children, a pet can be a source of comfort and a supportive, uncritical friend, always available to listen. Pets often give children a valuable sense of self-worth because they will not judge or make children feel inadequate. Children frequently describe their pets as a best friend or sibling.
Reactions to grief How a child responds to losing a pet really depends on the intensity of their bond, as well as the child's maturity and circumstances surrounding the loss. Children tend to show grief in spurts and for longer periods than adults. Children often show their grief in less direct ways than adults. One day they will seem fine and the next day they may show that they are feeling pain. Children may try to get closeness, care, information, reassurance and support from adults.
Even the most sensitive adult may feel uncomfortable discussing death, loss and grief with children. Parents often want to protect children from pain by shielding them from painful experiences, particularly if the pet will be euthanized. Children are often excluded from the decision to spare them the guilt associated with such a difficult choice.
What you can do Ensure that your child can express their feelings safely without judgment. Depending on your child's age and maturity, feelings can be expressed through play, water play, writing a letter, a story, a poem, painting or drawing.
Give clear and honest information to your child in a way that they can understand. Children need to know what is happening even if they don't ask.
Allow your child time to talk, ask questions and share their worries with a caring adult. They might be very confused and need to ask lots of questions. If you can't talk about it, find another adult who is close to your child who can. If children can't talk to you about the loss, they might feel that it is not safe to talk about it at all and so continue to have muddled and scary feelings. You may have to answer the same question over and over as your child learns to understand what has happened.
If the child is acting angrily or withdrawing, try to make times to talk, without pushing for answers. If it continues, talk to a health professional.
Be honest. If you don't tell them what has happened, you may prevent them from dealing with the loss and grieving. This can cause problems when they have other losses in their lives. Consider letting your child's teacher or childcare worker know if you think they will be sensitive. Teachers and friends at school can help to support your child.
Although you may feel uncomfortable, don't be afraid to share your sadness. It may help your child to see that their own feelings are normal. Learning to cope with the death of a pet may make it easier to deal with other losses, which are a natural part of life.
Allow times for extra closeness and comfort.
Shortly after the loss, the pain may outweigh the pleasurable memories of having a pet. Once the pain has diminished, you and your child may feel ready to become attached to a new pet. Your child may feel guilty about replacing the pet that has gone, perhaps worrying that they might forget about that pet. Grief is essentially about wanting to maintain a connection with someone who has died. There are many healthy ways to maintain this connection. Your child may feel better if they keep the pet's collar or put a framed photo on display.
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You are welcome to reproduce this article on your pet or family related web site, as long as you reproduce the article in full, including this resource box and link to http://www.great-pictures-of-cats.com which features photo and video galleries of beautiful cats. You'll find cute kittens, different breeds and funny cat videos.
Long distance relationships by Zoe the sexpert 0 votes vote Long Distance Relationship Long distance relationships are often the beginning of the
Long distance relationships are often the beginning of the end for most couples. It requires a great deal of understanding and trust. Constant communication is needed to keep the connection between the two alive and this can be hard for even the most stable couples.
There are many of reasons for a long distance relationship. Whether your partner is forced to move temporarily for work commitments, or your paths simply diverge from each other. Deciding that the relationship is worth fighting for is a decision you must both agree on full heartedly.
Problems with Distance
In the absence of your better half you will discover all the time you used to share is now spent alone. This is a dangerous time for most couples in a long distance relationship. It’s important to keep yourself busy and to spend some spare time with friends or family. Don’t let yourself slip into the cycle of being stuck at home each night thinking about your partner. Although it is healthy to miss your partner its possible for you to fall into depression. Here you will find yourself unable to do anything but sit at home and wait for the next call.
You will also find it hard to trust you partner in this state, causing you to become very possessive. No one likes to be told what to do and if your follow down this path you will inevitably begin to fight making the relationship harder for you both.
Communication break down is another problem you will face. It’s very easy to hold back your feelings. You will also face doubts and question your relationship in this time. It’s important for you to not be afraid to share your feelings.
Handling the Absence
Avoid these common mistakes by maintaining healthy communication. You do not need to be waiting by the phone to feel apart of there life. E-mail or talk to you partner at least once a day telling them about the small stuff as well as the big, just like you would normally if they were there. Reply to them as quickly as you can and if you fall out of touch for a few days tell them. This way they won’t worry when you don’t reply.
Long distance relationships are not the time to be stubborn. Don’t be afraid to tell you’re your partner how you feel and that you miss them. The chances are they will sense you are holding something back and it can cause doubts.
Most of all make sure they still fell like a part of your life. Ask them for advice and tell them about you family members so they don’t feel left out. Also be there when they need you. This is hard to do when your miles away but if they feel upset do anything you can to make them feel better. You don’t want them thinking its them against the world and you have left them all alone.
Lastly never underestimate a small gesture. A rose or even a poem is a small something that will make you partner still feel appreciated and thought about.
Getting Physical
It’s hard to be together when you can’t physically be together. This is by far the hardest thing couples will go through. Losing the warmth and companionship with your partner combined with communication breakdown drives many couples to infidelity. But it is possible for you to get through this.
Off course the most popular is phone sex but if you don’t feel comfortable doing this there is other options. Things like writing you lover a naughty poem or a saucy story is a way of feeling intimate with them. You can also send some suggestive pictures of yourself dressed up in role play or some sexy lingerie. You could even include a toy for them to play with in your absence.
Don’t let the distance stifle your passion or creativity just find other ways to show it to your partner.
The Reunion
When you finally get to see each other again don’t put to much pressure on yourself. The chances are you have been fantasying about this moment for awhile and your partner won’t be able to live up to the expectation.
Be realistic when you see each other, you are far more likely to fill the day with awkward silences then love making. But give you and your partner the time you need to fall back into the routine.
Know when to Fold
This is when you will start to question whether or not you made the right decision. If you are doing everything you can to keep the relationship going but its still not working, its time to call it quits. Signs of this are if the communication becomes one sided, or if simply you or your partner feel you can no longer handle the distance. If this happens you need to be able to let the relationship go before things become to sour.
Always Remember absence makes the heart grow fonder and the distance is only temporary.
About the Author
Written by zoe the resident sexpert on www.sultryseductions.com.au She can be reached on sultryseductions@live.com.au for any further questions. Zoe is always keen to answer any questions you might have.
There are many of reasons for a long distance relationship. Whether your partner is forced to move temporarily for work commitments, or your paths simply diverge from each other. Deciding that the relationship is worth fighting for is a decision you must both agree on full heartedly.
Problems with Distance
In the absence of your better half you will discover all the time you used to share is now spent alone. This is a dangerous time for most couples in a long distance relationship. It’s important to keep yourself busy and to spend some spare time with friends or family. Don’t let yourself slip into the cycle of being stuck at home each night thinking about your partner. Although it is healthy to miss your partner its possible for you to fall into depression. Here you will find yourself unable to do anything but sit at home and wait for the next call.
You will also find it hard to trust you partner in this state, causing you to become very possessive. No one likes to be told what to do and if your follow down this path you will inevitably begin to fight making the relationship harder for you both.
Communication break down is another problem you will face. It’s very easy to hold back your feelings. You will also face doubts and question your relationship in this time. It’s important for you to not be afraid to share your feelings.
Handling the Absence
Avoid these common mistakes by maintaining healthy communication. You do not need to be waiting by the phone to feel apart of there life. E-mail or talk to you partner at least once a day telling them about the small stuff as well as the big, just like you would normally if they were there. Reply to them as quickly as you can and if you fall out of touch for a few days tell them. This way they won’t worry when you don’t reply.
Long distance relationships are not the time to be stubborn. Don’t be afraid to tell you’re your partner how you feel and that you miss them. The chances are they will sense you are holding something back and it can cause doubts.
Most of all make sure they still fell like a part of your life. Ask them for advice and tell them about you family members so they don’t feel left out. Also be there when they need you. This is hard to do when your miles away but if they feel upset do anything you can to make them feel better. You don’t want them thinking its them against the world and you have left them all alone.
Lastly never underestimate a small gesture. A rose or even a poem is a small something that will make you partner still feel appreciated and thought about.
Getting Physical
It’s hard to be together when you can’t physically be together. This is by far the hardest thing couples will go through. Losing the warmth and companionship with your partner combined with communication breakdown drives many couples to infidelity. But it is possible for you to get through this.
Off course the most popular is phone sex but if you don’t feel comfortable doing this there is other options. Things like writing you lover a naughty poem or a saucy story is a way of feeling intimate with them. You can also send some suggestive pictures of yourself dressed up in role play or some sexy lingerie. You could even include a toy for them to play with in your absence.
Don’t let the distance stifle your passion or creativity just find other ways to show it to your partner.
The Reunion
When you finally get to see each other again don’t put to much pressure on yourself. The chances are you have been fantasying about this moment for awhile and your partner won’t be able to live up to the expectation.
Be realistic when you see each other, you are far more likely to fill the day with awkward silences then love making. But give you and your partner the time you need to fall back into the routine.
Know when to Fold
This is when you will start to question whether or not you made the right decision. If you are doing everything you can to keep the relationship going but its still not working, its time to call it quits. Signs of this are if the communication becomes one sided, or if simply you or your partner feel you can no longer handle the distance. If this happens you need to be able to let the relationship go before things become to sour.
Always Remember absence makes the heart grow fonder and the distance is only temporary.
About the Author
Written by zoe the resident sexpert on www.sultryseductions.com.au She can be reached on sultryseductions@live.com.au for any further questions. Zoe is always keen to answer any questions you might have.